Need help on marrying my daughter

Asalamulikum i need advice on how to go about and what my requirements are as a single mother to get my daughters nikkah done.
She has found someone which i said im jalpy to marry them.
They botj then said they dont want yo marry yet, want to get to know eachother more and then decide i said no at first but my daughter will not listen i left it for a couple of months as the boy said by end of year i will have an answer end of year has passed this years has come he has met me and my children he and my daughter have over steepes my morals boundaries i have now said they have to take rhis step as i will kot tolerate this no more.
In between alot has happened where she and him have disrespected me. I am not happy with him but she chooses him so i will do the nikkah bit my heart isnt in it.
I don't want to do anything in anger i need to know what in islam i should do to make it quick
I have said to the both of them i can only do a nikkah in the masjid i am not financially stable im single mother of 4 children no help from father or any extended family since my divorce

I do not want anything to really do with my daughter and the boy.

I need advice please

hartfire

Wa ʿalaykumu s-salam.

I suggest you ask the Imam at your mosque.

There are special Muslim women who are trained as advisors on women's roles and duties. Your Imam would know who they are.

In Islam, as a divorcee, you have the right to call on your parents for assistance.
Maybe some of the community of the mosque might want to help,
or perhaps a charity for divorced women.

I suggest that if you decide to help your daughter and her fiancée to marry, just keep the official ceremony as simple as possible.
You could explain that you don't have the funds to pay for it, but they (the couple) could work to earn that money.
Ask each of the invited guests to bring a plate to share. It might not be traditional, but it saves a lot of the costs and yet still allows everyone to feast and have a good time celebrating.
If you don't want all those people in your home, have the celebration in a public parkland.
Then all that's left is the clean-up afterwards - and maybe even that could be done with the good will of everyone helping.

I think you could also, if you really disapprove, just put your foot down and refuse to help them.
Given that they sound fixed on doing things their way, it's up to them to make a success of it or learn from their mistakes.

Viper · M

So you escaped your marriage for some reason (I'm assuming because it was bad)...

And now you're trying to force your daughter into a marriage? (That also might be a bad one?)

That does not sound smart.

Just point out to your daughter that he has no interest in marring you... and if she's cool with that, then leave her be to make her choice and/or mistakes. And be there for when she wants/needs help and advice.

Don't force her into a marriage if they don't want it.

Aneesah · 46-50

@Viper no she wanting to marry someone who she wants i have agreed
But i need to know as a mother because i dont thi k hes good for her and they both jave disrespected me i still will be at the wedding but how m7ch shall i do or get involved on the basis i been disrespected from my daughter and her husband to be i want to be there for hwr to at least be present in the marriage so shes not on her own so i do my duty as a mother but i cannont afford anything big just a small islamic ceremony im not forcing her