What have you all endured for a healthy relationship?
What do you think is a reasonable amount of pain to endure and work through for a good relationship? I don't really believe people can truly love each other.
I see lots of couples, getting married and such but in the end I think they just tolerate each other and get into a relationship asap because that is what is viewed as 'right'.
I never really cared about relationships but all these guys I liked ended up caring about sex more than anything else. Wouldn't bother about me as a human being.
Current guy I am around is 24/7 on Instagram posting stories and acting like a manchild. Same thing, sending d*** videos to me, acting he cares about me, then disappears and goes to bars with his brother. Your thoughts about love and relationships? A mothers love endures through all
As the man grabbed my hand and led me away, my mother could no longer hold in her tears. She fell to the barren ground in front of him and began wailing.
“Please, please take me instead!” She sputtered through her sobs,”Please, I’ll do anything!”
The tears cut streaks through her dirty face as she looked up to the man, pleading. “I’ll do anything.” She repeated.
The man glared at her, clearly disgusted, and continued to lead me away. I glanced behind my shoulder, getting one last glimpse of the woman who raised me. She burst into a new fit of desperate shrieks, face beet red and reaching out towards us.
“Please, she doesn’t deserve this! She doesn’t deserve this! Take me instead! Please!” She continued howling on the ground behind us, but the man continued dragging me away. He patted my back for comfort and said “Don’t worry sweetheart, everything is going to be fine. We’re trying to prioritize the children . There’s only so much room in the bunker.” How do you guys judge the difference between Love and Longing vs Lust?
This is one point I've always felt weird about, Jesus said even looking at women with lust in your heart is a sin, but it seems hard to ever even ask a woman out without looking at her with longing or love. Couples in very long term relationships, does the giddiness of love fade away? What replaces it?
How long have you been with your significant other? Do you still feel that crazy passion you had for them in the first couple of years? If not, what has replaced that feeling? Do you still have wild, passionate sex? Or do things become subdued over time? Adding god to love seems unnecessary
I genuinely feel this way. In discussion religion I have found that many Christians think of their god as love. Which I respect if that is how they feel. I however do not get it.
I will say things like I love my son. Which is true. I have no god but my love for my son is very real. Christians then seem to argue that I love my son because of god. That this love would not exist without god. That love itself would not exist. This makes no sense to me. It seems like an extra step. If I know I love my son without worshipping any god then how is god love? How can there be an absence of love without the Christian god if I live completely separate from Christianity but definitely feel love towards certain people? I feel like the argument that your god is love just does not work. I want to understand love.
When it comes to love I’ve never known what I’m doing. I’ve been haunted by an ex (my first love) for 4 years, and I’m trying to navigate my new relationship with my current girlfriend. My parents never taught me about love and I never had any love stories I could use to understand myself or my relationships growing up. Science and research are helpful (I’m a nerd), but what I really need is a good story that can really touch me and give me ways to think about love. I don’t want any unrealistic, princess in the tower stuff, but something real I can take-in and learn from. I’m a guy, but I’m open to all suggestions. I appreciate everything anyone has to say. Love is an unconditional care for someone no matter what they do. In that you can see that God is the truest form of love in that he will save anyone from anything regardless of what they've done so as long as they believe and commit to his teachings.
A feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a friend, for a parent or child, and so forth; warm fondness or liking for another; also, the benevolent affection of God for his creatures or the reverent affection due from them to God; also, the kindly affection properly expressed by God’s creatures toward one another; that strong or passionate affection for a person of the opposite sex that constitutes the emotional incentive to conjugal union. One of the synonyms for love is “devotion.”
Aside from those meanings, the Scriptures speak also of love guided by principle, as love of righteousness or even love for one’s enemies, for whom a person may not have affection. This facet or expression of love is an unselfish devotion to righteousness and a sincere concern for the lasting welfare of others, along with an active expression of this for their good.
“Love can be known only from the actions it prompts", Best definition is from the bible 1 Cor 13: 4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous. It does not brag, does not get puffed up, 5 does not behave indecently, does not look for its own interests, does not become provoked. It does not keep account of the injury. 6 It does not rejoice over unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth. 7 It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
I see God as love. He is the good weighed against the hate in the world. So in essence, I love god because he is the source of love, and thus the output of the love we share amongst each other. True love is based on character, looks and strength are nice if thrown in. Most people experience as the launching pad for marriage is enchantment, not love. Enchantment is based on outward glamour. Love is what is in 1. corinthians 13. 4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love is the most powerful feeling in the world. It feels better than anything else but can also cause pain that one cannot imagine surviving. Love crosses time and space. Love makes that person become part of your soul and offers you comfort even when you can't see them. Love is the greatest gift from God but it is also the heaviest.
I agree that Bishop Barron is a great evangelist. He's had quite the impact on my own life (though he'll never know it). I'm not sure if I first got this definition from Barron or someone else first but it's basically become the only viable definition to me.
How would you define love?
I love (heh) asking people this question because it really helps get to know them. So, without Googling for help, how would you best define love?
(I am leaving it as generically as possible for those that don't particularly want to expound on the specific Greek categories, agape, etc.) But I understand the spirit of your question. Love is altruism towards another without expectation of repayment or reconciliation. It shines a better light on someone than the light you shine you on your own thoughts and actions. It involves trying to solve problems and preventing evil, rather than just token niceness. It involves the search for truth, not just the restatement of your own. Love is a better standard than many of us can ever hope to dream of on a consistent basis.
I see lots of couples, getting married and such but in the end I think they just tolerate each other and get into a relationship asap because that is what is viewed as 'right'.
I never really cared about relationships but all these guys I liked ended up caring about sex more than anything else. Wouldn't bother about me as a human being.
Current guy I am around is 24/7 on Instagram posting stories and acting like a manchild. Same thing, sending d*** videos to me, acting he cares about me, then disappears and goes to bars with his brother. Your thoughts about love and relationships? A mothers love endures through all
As the man grabbed my hand and led me away, my mother could no longer hold in her tears. She fell to the barren ground in front of him and began wailing.
“Please, please take me instead!” She sputtered through her sobs,”Please, I’ll do anything!”
The tears cut streaks through her dirty face as she looked up to the man, pleading. “I’ll do anything.” She repeated.
The man glared at her, clearly disgusted, and continued to lead me away. I glanced behind my shoulder, getting one last glimpse of the woman who raised me. She burst into a new fit of desperate shrieks, face beet red and reaching out towards us.
“Please, she doesn’t deserve this! She doesn’t deserve this! Take me instead! Please!” She continued howling on the ground behind us, but the man continued dragging me away. He patted my back for comfort and said “Don’t worry sweetheart, everything is going to be fine. We’re trying to prioritize the children . There’s only so much room in the bunker.” How do you guys judge the difference between Love and Longing vs Lust?
This is one point I've always felt weird about, Jesus said even looking at women with lust in your heart is a sin, but it seems hard to ever even ask a woman out without looking at her with longing or love. Couples in very long term relationships, does the giddiness of love fade away? What replaces it?
How long have you been with your significant other? Do you still feel that crazy passion you had for them in the first couple of years? If not, what has replaced that feeling? Do you still have wild, passionate sex? Or do things become subdued over time? Adding god to love seems unnecessary
I genuinely feel this way. In discussion religion I have found that many Christians think of their god as love. Which I respect if that is how they feel. I however do not get it.
I will say things like I love my son. Which is true. I have no god but my love for my son is very real. Christians then seem to argue that I love my son because of god. That this love would not exist without god. That love itself would not exist. This makes no sense to me. It seems like an extra step. If I know I love my son without worshipping any god then how is god love? How can there be an absence of love without the Christian god if I live completely separate from Christianity but definitely feel love towards certain people? I feel like the argument that your god is love just does not work. I want to understand love.
When it comes to love I’ve never known what I’m doing. I’ve been haunted by an ex (my first love) for 4 years, and I’m trying to navigate my new relationship with my current girlfriend. My parents never taught me about love and I never had any love stories I could use to understand myself or my relationships growing up. Science and research are helpful (I’m a nerd), but what I really need is a good story that can really touch me and give me ways to think about love. I don’t want any unrealistic, princess in the tower stuff, but something real I can take-in and learn from. I’m a guy, but I’m open to all suggestions. I appreciate everything anyone has to say. Love is an unconditional care for someone no matter what they do. In that you can see that God is the truest form of love in that he will save anyone from anything regardless of what they've done so as long as they believe and commit to his teachings.
A feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a friend, for a parent or child, and so forth; warm fondness or liking for another; also, the benevolent affection of God for his creatures or the reverent affection due from them to God; also, the kindly affection properly expressed by God’s creatures toward one another; that strong or passionate affection for a person of the opposite sex that constitutes the emotional incentive to conjugal union. One of the synonyms for love is “devotion.”
Aside from those meanings, the Scriptures speak also of love guided by principle, as love of righteousness or even love for one’s enemies, for whom a person may not have affection. This facet or expression of love is an unselfish devotion to righteousness and a sincere concern for the lasting welfare of others, along with an active expression of this for their good.
“Love can be known only from the actions it prompts", Best definition is from the bible 1 Cor 13: 4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous. It does not brag, does not get puffed up, 5 does not behave indecently, does not look for its own interests, does not become provoked. It does not keep account of the injury. 6 It does not rejoice over unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth. 7 It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
I see God as love. He is the good weighed against the hate in the world. So in essence, I love god because he is the source of love, and thus the output of the love we share amongst each other. True love is based on character, looks and strength are nice if thrown in. Most people experience as the launching pad for marriage is enchantment, not love. Enchantment is based on outward glamour. Love is what is in 1. corinthians 13. 4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love is the most powerful feeling in the world. It feels better than anything else but can also cause pain that one cannot imagine surviving. Love crosses time and space. Love makes that person become part of your soul and offers you comfort even when you can't see them. Love is the greatest gift from God but it is also the heaviest.
I agree that Bishop Barron is a great evangelist. He's had quite the impact on my own life (though he'll never know it). I'm not sure if I first got this definition from Barron or someone else first but it's basically become the only viable definition to me.
How would you define love?
I love (heh) asking people this question because it really helps get to know them. So, without Googling for help, how would you best define love?
(I am leaving it as generically as possible for those that don't particularly want to expound on the specific Greek categories, agape, etc.) But I understand the spirit of your question. Love is altruism towards another without expectation of repayment or reconciliation. It shines a better light on someone than the light you shine you on your own thoughts and actions. It involves trying to solve problems and preventing evil, rather than just token niceness. It involves the search for truth, not just the restatement of your own. Love is a better standard than many of us can ever hope to dream of on a consistent basis.
