Is it possible to have a connection with someone you have never met?
Is it ridiculous to fall in love with someone you never met in person but talked to and shared a lot with over the Internet? I'm in an LDR that started as an in-person relationship. I've been with my boyfriend for around two and a half years through lots of international traveling, his basic training, and his current job with the army. Now I'm writing a book about LDRs and through research I've realized that never-mets are actually incredibly common, much more so than I thought. I've only ever developed one relationship online, and that was a simple friendship with a girl I met through NaNoWriMo.
I would really love to understand what it is like to be in a relationship with someone you've never met in person, as most of what I have to go on is what I've seen in Catfish and I'm sure that that's not a fair representation at all. I'd like to be able to do never-met relationships proud in my book, but I just don't fully understand. What is the experience of falling in love online or over the phone like? How can you get to that level of emotion without meeting someone?
I keep having dreams and intense bursts of energy regarding someone I know I’m supposed to be very close to. They’ve been growing even stronger within the past two weeks and my dreams haven’t stopped. How do you deal with knowing someone is missing from you but you’ve never met? Their presence is so familiar yet it’s not someone I’ve met on earth this time around. Whenever I dream, we’re simultaneously trying to escape something and having a super important discussion (can’t remember the contents upon waking up).
I'm really looking forward to learning about this and would appreciate any insight you can throw my way!
Have you ever had feelings for someone you never met?
Given how widespread the internet has become, have you met anyone special there? How did it turn out?
Also, does anyone know any books that would be helpful? I know there are a bunch of other long distance ones and a bunch of online dating ones, but I can't find any for long-dsitance online dating, and most of the online dating ones are just tips for how to make profiles and interact on dating websites. Has anyone here ever had a crush on someone they've never met in person?
Backstory: I'm 19, she's 25. I began talking to her a couple of years ago on a forum I post on, at first when I found out I was talking to an attractive woman, I was just going to troll her a bit, trick her into sending me nudes and then post them up on the forum or share them with friends I have on there and move on.
But the more I talked to her, the more I learned how compatible we are and that she's a really cool person in general. She has a great sense of humour, is "cute" in a feminine/innocent way but occasionally comes out with a joke like my rugby buddies do, a really vulgar one and it shocks me and makes me laugh at the same time.
She is into the same kind of art as I am (Surrealism) and we even like the same kinds of alcohol and recreational drugs. Some months we'll skype for hours every day.
Don't get me wrong, I don't just sit in my fapcave all day fantasizing about a woman half the world away from me. Since we began talking I've been through several non-serious relationships and hooked up with various women on one night stands or at house parties, whatever. But if I got the chance I'd drop everything to meet her and see if we were compatible. Is that pathetic? Can anyone else relate? How do you know you’ve found the one? Is it an instant “when you know you know feeling” Or do we watch too much romcoms?
My ex told me something is missing and he just can’t explain what it is. Just a question to those that have made it the long run or marriage.
Did you feel this spark in your stomach that this person was the one right off the bat? Or do we watch so much romcoms that we THINK there’s this you’re the one for the rest of my life feeling? I know there’s many people who’ve said when I saw her, I knew she was the one. Coming from a happily married couple, is it true; when you know you know? I hate to be one of those that think that’s just lust and unrealistic, or maybe it’s because I haven’t met that “when I know I know feeling”. My ex broke up with because something on the inside is just telling him something is missing. No explanation, nothing. We’ve hugged, we’ve cried, we didn’t want to let go but he said he knows himself, and he doesn’t know what it is, but somethings just not there. It turned into an amicable break up. We’re NC now but I still love him loads. He’s the type that thinks his next gf is his future wife, if he’s not 110% sure, he wouldn’t waste time to date. (30F/ 31M) and both quite mature. I still love him and I just wish he realizes this may be a mistake. I met this guy on tinder travel and he's from the U.K I live in the U.S. from the beginning he told me that "I think you're really cute, funny and a brilliant sense of curiousity, and if i was in the U.S id definately take you on a date, but since im in the UK and youre in the states we both kind of know it wouldnt work as us dating if you understand me?" And I agree to it but why did I still get obsessed with him? Anyone has any advice to this? I might idealize him a bit, and I might only know about 10% of his verbal communication but the little I know I like a lot. He's polite, ethical, a great personality and a kind heart. I admire him, I admire his knowledge and I can't think about a single negative thing about him to help me get over this. I think I am sad because it breaks my heart knowing I won't be able to even have the opportunity to love him and give him all the love I know I can offer him. That everything will be only a dream, an illusion. And that's so heartbreaking. He accepts me as I am, my physical appearance and my super weird and intense personality. He was a bit cold and i told him why and he said i was at a girls house yesterday and I haven't replied. But why do I get so down? Am I not accepting reality? I can't stop talking to him, I think about him all the time. Why do I "fall" or get so into impossible men? Why does he still talk to me? What is he looking for, a friend? How can I stop my feelings for him but be his friend? I think maybe he liked the attention i give him. I honestly cant eat, sleep, do my homework or do something fun cause i get so down. My (20F) boyfriend (22M) and I have been together almost three and a half years now and none of our friends/family know. We had originally planned to tell people once we met in person, but we have not yet had the opportunity. I mean, since nobody knows we are dating, it makes it extremely difficult to board a plane to a different continent without people asking questions.
How does it feel being in a relationship with people you have never met and not likely to meet
I guy I met online asked me to be their gf but we are both aware of the fact that we are not able to meet anytime soon because of distance and other requirements for travelling. He is nice but I don't understand why he would want such a complex relationship. Is it even normal?
Although some may feel that we just come right out and say it, both of us know for a fact that our friends and families have a stigma against nevermet couples. Essentially, it's the whole idea of "How can you be dating someone you don't even know? You don't even know what they are really like" and so on. We are both very nervous about a negative reaction from our friends/family. In fact, I recently attempted to 'test the water' with one of my close friends by asking what she thought of couples who had never met. She said, "That's so weird. I don't even think that's natural" which has made me even more apprehensive about telling people.
I would really love to understand what it is like to be in a relationship with someone you've never met in person, as most of what I have to go on is what I've seen in Catfish and I'm sure that that's not a fair representation at all. I'd like to be able to do never-met relationships proud in my book, but I just don't fully understand. What is the experience of falling in love online or over the phone like? How can you get to that level of emotion without meeting someone?
I keep having dreams and intense bursts of energy regarding someone I know I’m supposed to be very close to. They’ve been growing even stronger within the past two weeks and my dreams haven’t stopped. How do you deal with knowing someone is missing from you but you’ve never met? Their presence is so familiar yet it’s not someone I’ve met on earth this time around. Whenever I dream, we’re simultaneously trying to escape something and having a super important discussion (can’t remember the contents upon waking up).
I'm really looking forward to learning about this and would appreciate any insight you can throw my way!
Have you ever had feelings for someone you never met?
Given how widespread the internet has become, have you met anyone special there? How did it turn out?
Also, does anyone know any books that would be helpful? I know there are a bunch of other long distance ones and a bunch of online dating ones, but I can't find any for long-dsitance online dating, and most of the online dating ones are just tips for how to make profiles and interact on dating websites. Has anyone here ever had a crush on someone they've never met in person?
Backstory: I'm 19, she's 25. I began talking to her a couple of years ago on a forum I post on, at first when I found out I was talking to an attractive woman, I was just going to troll her a bit, trick her into sending me nudes and then post them up on the forum or share them with friends I have on there and move on.
But the more I talked to her, the more I learned how compatible we are and that she's a really cool person in general. She has a great sense of humour, is "cute" in a feminine/innocent way but occasionally comes out with a joke like my rugby buddies do, a really vulgar one and it shocks me and makes me laugh at the same time.
She is into the same kind of art as I am (Surrealism) and we even like the same kinds of alcohol and recreational drugs. Some months we'll skype for hours every day.
Don't get me wrong, I don't just sit in my fapcave all day fantasizing about a woman half the world away from me. Since we began talking I've been through several non-serious relationships and hooked up with various women on one night stands or at house parties, whatever. But if I got the chance I'd drop everything to meet her and see if we were compatible. Is that pathetic? Can anyone else relate? How do you know you’ve found the one? Is it an instant “when you know you know feeling” Or do we watch too much romcoms?
My ex told me something is missing and he just can’t explain what it is. Just a question to those that have made it the long run or marriage.
Did you feel this spark in your stomach that this person was the one right off the bat? Or do we watch so much romcoms that we THINK there’s this you’re the one for the rest of my life feeling? I know there’s many people who’ve said when I saw her, I knew she was the one. Coming from a happily married couple, is it true; when you know you know? I hate to be one of those that think that’s just lust and unrealistic, or maybe it’s because I haven’t met that “when I know I know feeling”. My ex broke up with because something on the inside is just telling him something is missing. No explanation, nothing. We’ve hugged, we’ve cried, we didn’t want to let go but he said he knows himself, and he doesn’t know what it is, but somethings just not there. It turned into an amicable break up. We’re NC now but I still love him loads. He’s the type that thinks his next gf is his future wife, if he’s not 110% sure, he wouldn’t waste time to date. (30F/ 31M) and both quite mature. I still love him and I just wish he realizes this may be a mistake. I met this guy on tinder travel and he's from the U.K I live in the U.S. from the beginning he told me that "I think you're really cute, funny and a brilliant sense of curiousity, and if i was in the U.S id definately take you on a date, but since im in the UK and youre in the states we both kind of know it wouldnt work as us dating if you understand me?" And I agree to it but why did I still get obsessed with him? Anyone has any advice to this? I might idealize him a bit, and I might only know about 10% of his verbal communication but the little I know I like a lot. He's polite, ethical, a great personality and a kind heart. I admire him, I admire his knowledge and I can't think about a single negative thing about him to help me get over this. I think I am sad because it breaks my heart knowing I won't be able to even have the opportunity to love him and give him all the love I know I can offer him. That everything will be only a dream, an illusion. And that's so heartbreaking. He accepts me as I am, my physical appearance and my super weird and intense personality. He was a bit cold and i told him why and he said i was at a girls house yesterday and I haven't replied. But why do I get so down? Am I not accepting reality? I can't stop talking to him, I think about him all the time. Why do I "fall" or get so into impossible men? Why does he still talk to me? What is he looking for, a friend? How can I stop my feelings for him but be his friend? I think maybe he liked the attention i give him. I honestly cant eat, sleep, do my homework or do something fun cause i get so down. My (20F) boyfriend (22M) and I have been together almost three and a half years now and none of our friends/family know. We had originally planned to tell people once we met in person, but we have not yet had the opportunity. I mean, since nobody knows we are dating, it makes it extremely difficult to board a plane to a different continent without people asking questions.
How does it feel being in a relationship with people you have never met and not likely to meet
I guy I met online asked me to be their gf but we are both aware of the fact that we are not able to meet anytime soon because of distance and other requirements for travelling. He is nice but I don't understand why he would want such a complex relationship. Is it even normal?
Although some may feel that we just come right out and say it, both of us know for a fact that our friends and families have a stigma against nevermet couples. Essentially, it's the whole idea of "How can you be dating someone you don't even know? You don't even know what they are really like" and so on. We are both very nervous about a negative reaction from our friends/family. In fact, I recently attempted to 'test the water' with one of my close friends by asking what she thought of couples who had never met. She said, "That's so weird. I don't even think that's natural" which has made me even more apprehensive about telling people.
