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To commit or not to commit

All my siblings both older and younger than I have either a spouse or a child to keep them occupied. They’ve moved onto the next step in their lives. Whilst I love being single and not having to commit to relationship I do miss companionship, like, a lot. Pretty much everyone who I socialise with including both my immediate and extended family always ask me when I’m gonna settle down and the reality is that, I’m not actively looking for a spouse, or not really on the ‘to-do’ list. I turn 26 next month and I guess the cultural and also faith based stereotype is that I probably should’ve have a child of my own by now. I adore children, just ask my nephew, he gets whatever he asks me 😂! It’s not easy finding someone who you really click with, for me, I need someone who’s active in their life so that when we both have free time, we can enjoy each other’s company. My mum always says, “Ray, even if you elope, I don’t mind, just come round with her and introduce me” - mum is so chill with me. Perks of being the black sheep of the family 😏
WhateverWorks · 36-40 Best Comment
I think… it’s important not to ‘settle down’ (emphasis on settling) out of social expectation because it leads to discontentment later. It’s important to figure yourself out and find someone who has figured themselves out so that way whatever you build together has a strong foundation to grow from both as individuals and as a partnership.
mynameisray · 26-30, M
@WhateverWorks couldn’t have said it better!
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Please do not compare your path of life to those of others, dear to you or not. When your heart finds someone to love, then commit. Marriage is not merely about companionship or children. It is about love and children are how one carries this love on and on. You are not behind. You are exactly where you are supposed to be. And when you find that someone special, you will know exactly why you waited for such a fine love.
Lolz…I think you’re not ready for compromising at your level and age. Concentrate on your biz, and enjoy life till you’re 30. That’ll give you some emotional maturity to look for the right things in your partner. Coz only you know what will keep you hooked for the next 10-20-30 yrs of your life. So why rush?
mynameisray · 26-30, M
@Vivaci Preach!!
BarbossasHusband · 36-40, M
I feel ya. Even my grandma is so impatient she's half joked about me tricking a rich guy into staying by getting knocked up 🤦‍♀️

I have 3 younger sisters who are all in commited relationships and live with their partners. They're 20, 22 and 34. (I'm 35)
mynameisray · 26-30, M
@BarbossasHusband I don’t think she’s joking! 🙃
BarbossasHusband · 36-40, M
@mynameisray yee,either way, I'm not gonna do that.
I don't want kids, I have enough money to get by and I have a concience.
mynameisray · 26-30, M
@BarbossasHusband Mhm! You and me both!
NestChicken · 31-35, M
It seems like women prefer cold men with a cold cynical attitude, the type who goes out of his way to trash romantics those who have feelings and those who are touchy feely. Guess what? Nobody wants to be harassed by a romantic
@NestChicken Apparently none of them. You choose them. Choose a woman unlike any of those. It seems simple. Find a different kind.
NestChicken · 31-35, M
@PoetryNEmotion choosing another kind of woman might still not lead to a romantic one. It might lead to a psychopath or some crazy person
@NestChicken Your record for a partner is poor. You have little to lose. Just be careful. Make it fun. Choose a different kind. Good luck.
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mynameisray · 26-30, M
@nightjourney I hear you. I enjoy the alone time to just do me too. It’s therapeutic in some ways.

 
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