standards for marriage

I really want to marry someone who is a lot younger then me. should age be a requirement? that is one of the few things i care about,along with kindness and openness. most people think age does not matter but i have this weird feeling i get uncomfortable or unsafe about older guys.

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NodandaWink · 51-55, M

Do you feel more in control with a younger guy? Is that the root?

Girlyfriendcollecting · F

@NodandaWink no I just feel like there is no chance of him hitting me of any other physical abuse.

indyjoe · 56-60, M

@Girlyfriendcollecting Uhm...abusive guys come in ALL ages. Just because he is younger than you doesn't mean he won't abuse you physically, verbally, or emotionally. And just because a guy is older doesn't mean he stands a better chance of being abusive. The bottom line is that not all guys are disrespectful or abusive to women.

Girlyfriendcollecting · F

@indyjoe I never said all guys are disrespectful or abusive. I'm saying out of the ones that are abusing older ones are worse.

NodandaWink · 51-55, M

I don't really agree with your rational but I think whatever makes you Feel comfortable is valid no matter. So if that is what does it then I think you should follow your feelings about whom you date etc.