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I Am In a Difficult Marriage

So my wife and I met and started dating and fell quickly and hopelessly in love. We got married after only 3 months and at first it seemed so blissful. Then I began to see another side to her. She has an explosive temper and those first few months destroyed my TV, stereo, CD's, busted a wall and even hit me. After every episode she would feel really bad and apologize profusely. But what is love if you can't forgive? I forgive every time and then I started to have episodes in response to hers (I never hit her though). My sister describes our marriage as 'volatile' and I must agree. When its good it really is incredible but when its bad its nightmarish. I used to only socially drink on the weekends but now drink almost every day because I'm so stressed out to be around her. I never know what might set her off so I walk on eggshells until she is in a happy mood again. The problem is these episodes are getting more and more frequent. I don't know what to do. The marriage is dying a slow painful death and I feel helpless to prevent it. The only thing I can do is still love her even if she doesn't love or even like me anymore. That's what love is I think, loving even when it's painful, heart wrenching and seemingly doomed to fail.
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updown2020 · 61-69, M
Well it was only three months before marriage but maybe she was hiding her other side until the wedding day and then was she was comfortable the other side came out. I have a friend which that happened to and that marriage lasted 7 months before it was off to divorce court. Yes marriage is suppose to be for better or worse sickness and health. Well if people hide a side that's unfair. People have faults this is a way of life the question is can you live with those faults and their are some fault no one should live with and that is abuse either physical or verbal.
Dayeshadow · 51-55, M
@updown2020 yeah I feel she kept it hid pretty good but that's what I get for jumping into marriage that fast I suppose