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I Am In a Difficult Marriage

So my wife and I met and started dating and fell quickly and hopelessly in love. We got married after only 3 months and at first it seemed so blissful. Then I began to see another side to her. She has an explosive temper and those first few months destroyed my TV, stereo, CD's, busted a wall and even hit me. After every episode she would feel really bad and apologize profusely. But what is love if you can't forgive? I forgive every time and then I started to have episodes in response to hers (I never hit her though). My sister describes our marriage as 'volatile' and I must agree. When its good it really is incredible but when its bad its nightmarish. I used to only socially drink on the weekends but now drink almost every day because I'm so stressed out to be around her. I never know what might set her off so I walk on eggshells until she is in a happy mood again. The problem is these episodes are getting more and more frequent. I don't know what to do. The marriage is dying a slow painful death and I feel helpless to prevent it. The only thing I can do is still love her even if she doesn't love or even like me anymore. That's what love is I think, loving even when it's painful, heart wrenching and seemingly doomed to fail.
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CrazyCatLady · 36-40, F
You both need to seek for theraphy. She is dragging you with her and there is no way you alone can help her break this cycle.
Don't be afraid to seek for help. This is clearly escalating quickly and things could get way worse.
Dayeshadow · 51-55, M
@CrazyCatLady She is too proud to go to counseling or therapy
CrazyCatLady · 36-40, F
@Dayeshadow Then my advice would be for you to run as fast as you can from her. Because even if you get divorced later, you will bring all this shit with you and you could become her in your next relationship.
:O
updown2020 · 61-69, M
@Dayeshadow It not about pride it's about saving the marriage well if she wants to save the marriage.