I Want a Lover Who Is Also My Best Friend

Im confused about whether this is positive or not. I met a wonderful friend online we became lovers. There was a very deep connection but now that the flame is dimming it is really hard to be friends like we were before.
Things happened too fast. I've always believed that a lover can be your best friend but now i doubt it. Perhaps it can be if you stay lovers forever but ive come to the conclusion lately that love or lust??? has the potential to ruin friendship.

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cool2030 · 41-45, M

Mystique, on the soul question: this term is terribly overloaded and leads to much useless confusion, so I avoid it as much as I can. Call this a visualization technique if you will. I simply take notice of what happens in my mental eye that I "hook up" to my emotional self. I try to advance towards the person, and my emotional self either stops me in my tracks, or it lets me advance. It's sort of cute how it does that. So the way I understand this, the method lets me visualize a crucial emotional knowledge and attraction. If you like, I can get the subconscious to show me visually what my emotional self experiences.