I Want a Lover Who Is Also My Best Friend

Im confused about whether this is positive or not. I met a wonderful friend online we became lovers. There was a very deep connection but now that the flame is dimming it is really hard to be friends like we were before.
Things happened too fast. I've always believed that a lover can be your best friend but now i doubt it. Perhaps it can be if you stay lovers forever but ive come to the conclusion lately that love or lust??? has the potential to ruin friendship.

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cool2030 · 41-45, M

Pone22, I fully agree, relationships are complex and emotions vary considerably. And indeed, communication can go a long way to find the Other. But even in an established relationship, communication can only take you so far, since we are all captured by our limitations and by a multitude of personal objectives. Then we get very confused about why the relationship doesn't work or hasn't worked for awhile, or why after all the talking, one doesn't get beyond a certain point. To find one's clear inner advice, I've found this meditation to be really excellent. It will tell me where our inner links are at any one point and how strong they are in the first place -- if there are links at all.