I Want a Lover Who Is Also My Best Friend

Im confused about whether this is positive or not. I met a wonderful friend online we became lovers. There was a very deep connection but now that the flame is dimming it is really hard to be friends like we were before.
Things happened too fast. I've always believed that a lover can be your best friend but now i doubt it. Perhaps it can be if you stay lovers forever but ive come to the conclusion lately that love or lust??? has the potential to ruin friendship.

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cool2030 · 41-45, M

Sure, great, it would be fun to talk as soon as we get messaging. But in the meanwhile, it's really quite simple. It's much like any meditation: hold a picture of the person in front of you, look at it for, say 30 seconds, then close your eyes, let go of any other thoughts, feel the quiet in yourself while concentrating on the colors in the picture you remember, particularly the eyes, then feel yourself intuitively advancing -- or not advancing -- towards the person. If you feel a strong attraction, your intuition will eventually take you right into the person. If you don't, or not at that time, you'll keep on seeing or feeling the person at a certain distance. They may keep smiling at you, but you know that they are (at least at that time) on a different wave length. When I started doing that, I found that my biology reacts spontaneously to this inner message, so I know when the moment is right for an approach and when it's better to await another moment, or to forget about the story altogether!