I Want a Lover Who Is Also My Best Friend

Im confused about whether this is positive or not. I met a wonderful friend online we became lovers. There was a very deep connection but now that the flame is dimming it is really hard to be friends like we were before.
Things happened too fast. I've always believed that a lover can be your best friend but now i doubt it. Perhaps it can be if you stay lovers forever but ive come to the conclusion lately that love or lust??? has the potential to ruin friendship.

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cool2030 · 41-45, M

Relationships are often friendships punctuated by love. The love component can vary and it can at times become dominant. Can it ever become dominant on a permanent basis? It doesn't look so for me, not at this point any way. It becomes stronger and then it wanes again, just to become dominant again another time. That's how I would answer the first question. On the second question: this is a meditation that only came to me about a month ago, and I found that it has clarified my innermost feelings very well since then. I now know exactly how I feel, and it makes it easy to understand when my emotions are not where they have been at other times. So I'm likely going to use this meditation again in the future.