I Want a Lover Who Is Also My Best Friend

Im confused about whether this is positive or not. I met a wonderful friend online we became lovers. There was a very deep connection but now that the flame is dimming it is really hard to be friends like we were before.
Things happened too fast. I've always believed that a lover can be your best friend but now i doubt it. Perhaps it can be if you stay lovers forever but ive come to the conclusion lately that love or lust??? has the potential to ruin friendship.

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cool2030 · 41-45, M

I found an interesting approach to this question. I go into a meditation and think of my (potential) lover. I find her wave length and then follow it, slowly, step by step. If I end up right inside her in my meditation and feel totally well while being there, I know I have a really strong connection to her. This relationship has great potential. It is surprising how many times one just feels a desire to make love (we are all constructed that way biologically), but there is no real inner connection with the person in question. Also, the connection can be very partial, sometimes present and many times not. One has to be totally honest with oneself, and this is one way of finding out about one's deep innermost feelings.