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MarkPaul · 26-30, M
Truth be told, I haven't figured out how to be either, but selfishly desire to experience "it" for myself which I know is wrong since having a lover and a best friend requires being reciprocal. I could go on and on - and still might - about all the reasons for my dilemma (I'm shy, I regularly don't really like myself, I have a light touch of social anxiety, I have some low self-esteem issues, I tend to carry past rejections with me rather than letting them go, etc.), but until I gain some self-understanding and allow myself some self-acceptance, my guess is I will be doomed to experience neither. For purposes of clarity, I am not associating a lover with ONLY the act of sex and best friend with ONLY a long-time friendly relationship.