My wife of fifty years wont be coming home

After almost two weeks, she has had the successful hernia operation and spent over a week terrorizing the hospital staff. They were warned about her dementure, but didn't listen. After a week of refusing to shower or allow them to care for her and screaming at us to take her home the doctors finally ordered medication to allow her to dealt with. But she has rashes and had a fall, so there is bruising. We had to have her moved by ambulance because she wouldnt cooperate to get in a car and she is now in Respite care in a dementia unit and has just been weaning off the drugs...She hates both my daughter and myself and thinks she is in Scotland and her mother works in the place where she is.. My daughter has broken down twice already at how abusive she can be at times. But it is what it is.. We are looking at permanent residency there already. We did our due diligence and while she will never be happy. The place is modern and ticks all the boxes and the staff really to care enough to try and try again. And for her, thats about as good as its going to get..😷