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My wife of fifty years wont be coming home

My partner has had a progressive dementia for some years now, and it isnt the vacant eyes, smiling at everything type. Its the nasty Scottish Glasgow fishwife, who flies off the handle at nothing type. Until now I have managed her, with a little help from my long suffering daughter (Why is it a mother always dotes on the son, when the daughter puts in all the effort?)
Anyway. My wife had to enter hospital for surgery on a hernia she has had for a long time, but ignored. And the successful surgery meant a stay in hospital that has exposed the worst in her, which we have been covering. Full details will not be given here. But she is being "managed" until she is healed enough to be transfered to a home with secure dementia care. I can no longer look after and be safe myself..
And the most horrible part of this is the relief I feel..Its a really $h*tty way for a wonderful partnership to end..😞
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helenS · 36-40, F
The nursing home will do the unpleasant stuff, and that means you can enjoy the beautiful moments with her, because the burden is taken away from you.
whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M
@helenS Sadly, I am the enemy now....
helenS · 36-40, F
@whowasthatmaskedman Not long, and the nursing home personell will be the enemy, and you will be her knight in white armor. Believe me, I know what I'm talking about.
whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M
@helenS I agree. The problem is my wife knows it too. She was a senior nurse in (you guessed it) aged care and spots all the diversions coming a mile away. She is going to be a terrible resident..
Tastyfrzz · 61-69, M
@whowasthatmaskedman as am i to Jessica for taking her to detox and treatment and cutting her off.