I think it’s finally over…

I’m an intelligent, logical woman yet I’ve allowed myself to get caught up in a fantasy for several years. So many broken promises followed by love bombing and more promises that things will change. I, of course, am part of the problem because I allowed and enabled this behavior. No more. I finally called it quits last night after several years of this. Now I just have to refrain from reaching out to him, which is incredibly difficult. My heart is broken but I deserve better, as do all of you going through something similar. We should start a support group…

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robertsnj · 56-60, M

I am sorry for your pain. You seem like a really good catch I think good things on your horizon. Your openess charm and physical beauty are all huge assets.

I think it is important when one moves on that they do, as you did and absorb some of the blame instead of pushing it all to the other person. That shows a level of maturity that many people do not have.

You and the others like you DO NEED a support group. Wish yall collectively would make one on here. I think only good things could happen from it.

here is a pineapple for comic relief.... 🍍

PoetryNEmotion · F

@robertsnj I think a support group would not be a good thing. It reminds me of the Sexless Marriage forum on EP. I remember seeing so much negativity there. Depression. Anxiety. And anger. Lots of that. It was the largest forum on EP. I think many still are members on the site elsewhere. I know that everyone who left their marriages behind were the better for it. Only one from EP who is here now-a female-said she was returning to her companionship relationship. She never really gave it a try. Pity on her. I agree with what you said about taking some responsibility. I think we, as women, like to fantasize and to fall in love with potential even online where fantasy is a big part of the attraction. She is not a fish. So using :"catch" seems in poor taste.

AlwaysAlexis · 56-60, F

@PoetryNEmotion I was on EP but not that forum…I certainly don’t want to spread negativity given that it only fuels the fire. But what about a group of people who just encourage one another to have a growth mindset?

PoetryNEmotion · F

@AlwaysAlexis It sounds good. I think that people who struggle in a situation tend to focus upon the negatives. It is the human way. You need people who want to move on and not linger in feelings of less than what you need ie happiness, growth, positivity, etc. If you can gather people like that, a group might work. Misery does love company. Good luck. Put your last sentence in the group as the philosophy.