I think it’s finally over…

I’m an intelligent, logical woman yet I’ve allowed myself to get caught up in a fantasy for several years. So many broken promises followed by love bombing and more promises that things will change. I, of course, am part of the problem because I allowed and enabled this behavior. No more. I finally called it quits last night after several years of this. Now I just have to refrain from reaching out to him, which is incredibly difficult. My heart is broken but I deserve better, as do all of you going through something similar. We should start a support group…

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poshnaturist · 51-55, M

The good thing is that you finally recognised their behaviour and despite allowing it to happen, you have now taken ownership and control of the situation (I've been in a similar situation).

It's tough now but you'll be fine. Stay strong and remember why you ended it.

AlwaysAlexis · 56-60, F

@poshnaturist yes, it’s the lack of control that was killing me! And I’m a control freak so it’s amazing I stuck it out as long as I did. I can’t change his behavior, only mine…so I finally did.

poshnaturist · 51-55, M

@AlwaysAlexis Good for you. I drifted along for too long allowing my ex to behave the way she did before I eventually saw the light.
I then had to endure her narcissistic behaviour and vitriol following the separation but that became easier with time and when I took back control.
Good luck getting through this 💪🏻

AlwaysAlexis · 56-60, F

@poshnaturist thank you! It’s been a challenging few days and I know there are several more ahead of me. I appreciate the words of encouragement!

poshnaturist · 51-55, M

@AlwaysAlexis You will come out the other end, stronger and happier