I think it’s finally over…

I’m an intelligent, logical woman yet I’ve allowed myself to get caught up in a fantasy for several years. So many broken promises followed by love bombing and more promises that things will change. I, of course, am part of the problem because I allowed and enabled this behavior. No more. I finally called it quits last night after several years of this. Now I just have to refrain from reaching out to him, which is incredibly difficult. My heart is broken but I deserve better, as do all of you going through something similar. We should start a support group…

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ShadowedWhispers

Getting divorced after twenty years of marriage next month. If that pic is you, then you’re pretty cute and you’ll do fine. Just take some time being okay with you before complicating it with someone else. Running from relationship to relationship, is a recipe for disaster. Keep in mind, I’m talking to myself as well as you. ha ha.

AlwaysAlexis · 56-60, F

@ShadowedWhispers yes, the pic is me lol. To be honest, I was fine being single after my 15 year marriage ended. But then I got caught up in this other relationship. I stayed as long as I did because I did get something out of it. I just realize I want and need more. But you’re absolutely right, jumping into another relationship isn’t the way to go. I need time to grieve the loss of what could have been. That said, I’m looking forward to connecting with people for mutual support and laughs. 😊

AlwaysAlexis · 56-60, F

Also, I’m so sorry to hear about your own divorce.

ShadowedWhispers

@AlwaysAlexis exactly. I’m on a similar journey, so nice to meet you. 🤘

ShadowedWhispers

@AlwaysAlexis and best wishes.

ShadowedWhispers

@AlwaysAlexis and my pic is me too. At least half of me. lol

AlwaysAlexis · 56-60, F

@ShadowedWhispers I know this is intrusive, but what served as the catalyst for your divorce?

ShadowedWhispers

@AlwaysAlexis I don’t have a single catalyst I can boil it down to because there were many mitigating things that made it all toxic. I posted about it to a friend here but it’s kind of a lot to read. I’d be happy to copy and post if you want, but I thought I’d warn ya first.

ShadowedWhispers

@AlwaysAlexis and you’ve been pretty polite and kind, I don’t mind sharing.