where i live, iam basically invisible to ladies of color.

@LonelyEmpath wow that is a big step in the right direction. I feel like women get turned off when a guy doesn't try them on any ohter level than sexual and a woman of another race will be quick to pick up on guys who don't have friends who are not their race.

your not over weight--car suggests you make a reasonable salary (or better) your kinda stylish (opposite for me for the record ) .

2012 is a long time to go with companionship. I feel for you. If I could offer up.....start with your black friends and bonus points if they are black woman friends. Tell them what you told us but maybe in a softer word choice (the wording on this may come off as too intense) and get some ideas and direction.

I live in New Jersey--have a lot of black friends too. I know the big thing for me in friendship with them (which is sounds like you already figured out) is to be myself instead of "acting black" around them. sincerity goes a long way.

On an useless sidenote I have a lot of Jewish friends (like you ) because I live and Jersey and the Jewish culture and black culture are geographically close enough where it is normal for Jewish and people of color to be friend in New Jersey.

@robertsnj
Thanks my friend. You got what i was trying to convey. I really appreciate your feedback. Have a good one man.

@robertsnj

By the way Im in New Orleans Louisiana, U. S. A.

@LonelyEmpath wow that is interesting. What are you hobbies? I ask because when I was young and dating my hobbies that were either seen as gender netural or even femine (like writing) got a lot of femine attention when contrasted to my hobbies that were seen as more masculine. While you are thinking black women it somewhat how they are thinking and I would guess a high percentage of them would be looking for commonalities. You can hedge your bets by picking and adverstising a few hobbies that may be expressive and or whatever you feel you need to do to connect culturally (which It feels like you already doing? ) If I had a cat or a dog in a profile picture when I was way younger on a dating site that was always a hit. That is cool you are in New Orleans. Sounds like a cool place to live.