Why did you stay with your partner after finding out they had cheated on you?

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Well, she kept trying to shift the blame, telling me she would make it right, make it work, we'd be stronger, all that nonsense cheaters like to say when they realize they blew a good thing. So she was just around long enough to deal with the legal issues, and then I had all of her garbage packed.

Baremine · 70-79, C

@thenormalkindofcrazy how do know she wasn't sincere? Did you ever just screw up? My wife cheated on me 55 years ago. There were very real issues that contributed to her infidelity. A miscarriage, in a foreign country, not ideal living arrangements.
Our marriage took a severe hit but we put it back together stronger than ever. It took 30 years to restore the trust. Divorce isn't always the best answer. Sometimes a good sit down honest talk establish boundaries works best. Nobody is perfect.

thenormalkindofcrazy · 31-35, M

@Baremine No, nobody is perfect, but I'd rather not waste more of my time for someone statistically and, in her case, emotionally more likely to cheat again. Sometimes you gotta just get rid of the trash before it turns into a sunk-cost fallacy.