I Hate Cheaters

@newdawnnewday I did!!! She ended up marrying him and since got a divorce 🤷‍♂️

@Spokeskitties75 it’s the small miracles that count

@Spokeskitties75 That's a painful situation; I empathize. Hope you are OK now.

@firefall I can see that its so disgusting

@JollyRoger but obviously it depends on every relationship and it’s best to keep open communication with ur SO and if they are uncomfortable with it then it is up to you to decide whether you want to continue the relationship with someone who does not want u to be friends with that female friend. it’s also up to the female friend to know not to cross boundaries. it all comes down to respect and trust in the relationship there is not straight answer unfortunately. my opinion is if i trust my SO then having that friend should not be a problem unless i see something that would make it an issue.

@newdawnnewday Thank you. I feel the same way. But society seems to frown on it by 'sexualizing' it when it's not. In our social group of retired people who all had similar careers, we have the guys dying off before their wives. But, we are not all friends - we just associate through the idea of the past career being the common bond. So, some of these women are suddenly left out of the 'loop' and it is unfair (as I see it) to just ignore them. There are other men who would visit (as past friends of their husbands) but they too are wary of the stigma of being seen with a 'lonely widow' - It's absurd but it happens and it's the perception, not the fact of 'something going on' that is allowing it to happen.

@JollyRoger it’s so saddening to think about it. it still happens in my culture and friend group where me just being alone with a guy causes gossip in my family because everyone is so hyper focused on man and women vs two people just hanging out. it’s so annoying and it’s worst as a woman bc i’m supposed to be pure and typically the men will not get talked about. it’s so barbaric and just completely negates the fact that i can have a conversation with a guy without having any illicit reason other than to talk. i can’t help but imagine the amount of missed connections and friendships i have bc of people sexualizing the friendship smh. ur friends should have nothing to worry about and should be able to have some human connection without others talking bad about it.

@Azlotto there ya go!! haha

@newdawnnewday 🙂