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Anyone ever felt lonely in a long term relationship? is it normal?

Been in a relationship with someone for 6 years and I feel lonely is this normal?
UpsideOutInsideDown · 36-40, M
Unfortunately am quite familiar with it
@UpsideOutInsideDown not the best feeling hey
FrostBorne · 31-35, M
Love isn't simply an emotion. There is far more to it than the way you feel. As such, it's possible to feel lonely during a long term relationship. I've been with my wife for five years and there have some times like that.
taintedprincess · 46-50, F
It happens. Relationships go through phases. It hopefully passes
taintedprincess · 46-50, F
@CheerfullyCurious for sure I have been with my husband for 16 some years and have been through so many phases, ups and downs and sometimes have to fight to make it work. I think it is a miracle we are still together.
@taintedprincess 16 years is impressive!
CheerfullyCurious · 46-50, F
@taintedprincess if there is happy times - keep on fighting.❤️❤️❤️ I made a big mistake after 20 years with mine. We had our ups and downs but were mostly happy. But i broke his trust. Looking back I know we did not have the perfect marriage and were not the perfect match either but our good times far exceeded the unhappy times. I think it is worth fighting for your marriage if there is occasional bad patches.
goneeee · F
Yes it happens. You go thru growing pains over the years.
SW-User
Perhaps your relationship is lacking communication or affection this can lead to you feeling lonely. I guess you have to dig deep to know why you feel this way.
ManicMortuary · 31-35, F
No, it's not normal. At all.
You guys have disconnected it seems
SW-User
That's what we call settling.
newgirl · 56-60, F
Yes, some of my loneliest moments were when I was lying right next to him.
@newgirl does it pass on its own or is it something you have to work through?
newgirl · 56-60, F
For me, it indicated a problem in the marriage. It kept happening to the point where I questioned if I was even happy.
Nipper66 · 56-60, F
Have you always felt lonely? Or is it a recent thing?
@Nipper66 It started last year.At first I thought we were both very busy and it was a phase but now I'm not sure. I can't really confide in anyone around me so decided to turn to the internet but you'd be surprised how many conflicting articles are out there
Nipper66 · 56-60, F
@notquitesurewhatimdoinghere yeah. Have you tried bringing it up with you partner?
If your partner used to get a connectedness with you, but are now getting their emotional/ communicating needs met at work or with friends... maybe? Or are they edging away in a quiet way without realizing it? Then all can be good again!
If they are content as things are, or edging away knowingly... then it isn't so good...
Maybe they aren't giving you proper conpanionship in said relationship
Yes.

It´s quite common actually. It shouldn´t be, really.
vss1234 · 36-40, M
The ups and downs of each relation!
SW-User
Absolutely
Mrsbetweenfatandfit · 26-30, F
Yeah but that was because it was dying but neither of us could admit it

 
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