What have I done that I deserve this? My boyfriend of 4 years relationship broke up with me a...

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What have I done that I deserve this?

My boyfriend of 4 years relationship broke up with me a month ago. It is due to some trust issues we had over the years. Recent one being I found out that he has been flirting with a colleague and they have been going out behind my back. When I...

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Goralski · 51-55, M

Get on with life don't wait for nobody

justacloudaway · F

@Goralski: Years of memories together. We were so in love. I just didn't thought that something will just come in between us like this and end everything.

Goralski · 51-55, M

@justacloudaway: its a shame

Peaceful · F

it isn't a matter of what you deserve, it's what you've allowed because you love him more than you love yourself.

I know this may be difficult to hear, but it's time for you to walk away and heal you. You deserve so much more.

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justacloudaway · F

@firefall: and I have to pay for all of it with a broken heart?

firefall · 61-69, M

@justacloudaway: pretty much, I'm afraid, either pay with a broken heart now, or with a broken heart and the sense of more time wasted, later :(

Jo1892 · 41-45, F

@firefall: good words I say cut off ties completely unless they have a child to them witch I'm glad I don't too him

alan20 · M

I do think he's treating you badly and showing disrespect for your feelings. It's very difficult to do but I think you need to walk away. Best of luck.

abe182 · 46-50, M

I think he needs to see what's over the horizon and maybe you should too.. instead of trying to force the relationship.

You kind of sound hostile.

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SW-User

@Jo1892: That is very true.

abe182 · 46-50, M

@justacloudaway: he could be afraid to express his feelings and have blow back. That's why he didn't tell you in the beginning. Communication was broken down.
As for his coldness no you don't deserve that or the on/off either.
Honestly I would let him go. You can't force things.

Jo1892 · 41-45, F

I know that he's moved on if he has I'd like to not hear from him ever agin Pablo don't want him back ever I'd just like it if he keeps away from my son who is not his dad btw so he has no rights to him or upsetting him I'll call it a day no problem there

minarth008 · 61-69, M

I have to agree with what everyone else has posted so far. He is using you and taking advantage of your feelings for him. It sounds as though, you are filling in the gaps when no one else will hang out with him. You would be better off walking away now, and moving on with your life, and finding someone that truly cares about you, and wants to be with you.

chocolatewhatsoever · 22-25, F

Wow 4 years and he's hiding something from you?! I don't think that he's serious about you. It's better to walk away now than to tolerate nonsense.

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katielass · F

I'm not confused, get rid of him and move on.

justacloudaway · F

@katielass: So many years of memories and promises of life together... Even going through the things he hide from me, I still wanted him. At least I tried to make him come back but he just pushed me away and said he needed more time. I'm so ashame of myself.

katielass · F

@justacloudaway: Don't be ashamed for having feelings. It makes you human. But you deserve someone who isn't playing games and is with you because he really wants to be with you. I suspect its not as much love you feel as familiarity. It's difficult to make changes but you will learn and probably be much better off if you resolve to get over him and just move forward.

uncalled4 · 56-60, M

My girlfriend knows I have women friends. She has met most of them. Still, I do not mention every time I grab a lunch with one of them. Some cannot handle opposite-sex friends....which is fine. Sounds like better communication is needed.

justacloudaway · F

@uncalled4: We tried communicating in previous incidents but it just didn't work out. He calls me overthinking and not trusting. How can I trust when I saw messages of them flirting?

Jo1892 · 41-45, F

@uncalled that sounds like my ex he's a loud friends of the opposite sex but not me he can fuck any man or woman he wants and he dose like both

Jo1892 · 41-45, F

But if us women do that they have the right to call us SLAGS sorry men are as bad if not more manipulation behind them

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