Do I move or Stay?

Poll - Total Votes: 23

Colorado

Louisiana

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[c=#4C0073] OK, guys I need help. I don't know what to do, and it's driving me crazy! My fiance' and I have been fighting for about 3 months over where we are going to live. He has a really good job in Colorado and a 2 bedroom apartment there. Our children and I have a 3 bedroom house in Louisiana (family owned). Plus, I have a really good career and a lot of connections in Louisiana. My career is transferable, but I haven't been able to find a good job there. I have a lot of education and certifications in the fields of Education, Behavioral Health, and Paralegal Studies. But, I only have work experience in the field of Behavioral Health and volunteer experience in the field of Education. I was just offered a position in the school system here that would be a big step towards allowing me the freedom to further my education, better pay, and allow me more time with our children. The problem is he doesn't want to move back here because, his career really isn't transferable and my family is a bit overbearing. Our relationship itself has been pretty chaotic in the past, but I can't deny that he has really changed and is undeniably committed. Even when we are at odds, we always end up right back in-sync. After 8 years I don't see us anywhere but together. I love him more than life itself, but I don't want to regret this either. [/c]

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RealMustangGuy · 61-69, MVIP

This is a really tough question you have given us. I've read the replies other people have given you and they've all been good.

It sounds like you might be able to find a job in your field there even though there isn't one available now. You have given us a summary, and of course there is much more to this than just your summary. But based on your summary and what you have presented, my vote would be for Colorado.

Do work towards buying a house there as soon as you can. Renting is not a good financial choice unless it's truly short term temporary.

VioletRayne · 31-35, F

@RealMustangGuy: [c=#4C0073]I know. I only have tough questions. Lol I can pretty much figure out the little things. My heart is in Colorado, but my soul is in Louisiana. It's a rock and a heart place kind of thing. Do I sell my soul to save my heart or Do lose my heart to save my soul?[/c]

RealMustangGuy · 61-69, MVIP

@VioletRayne: I don't know. Your post didn't mention your soul being in Louisiana. The soul is a powerful thing. I could have done more with my own career had I opted to live in a city. But my soul was, is, and always will be that of a country boy. I chose my soul, and at this point in my life I couldn't be happier with that decision, even though along the journey I often wondered if I'd made a mistake.

I am not sure you'll be happy to turn your back on your soul. I guess I've just further complicated your decision.

VioletRayne · 31-35, F

@RealMustangGuy: 😩[c=#4C0073]I don't know. I hate this.[/c]

RealMustangGuy · 61-69, MVIP

@VioletRayne: Men are supposed to make their women happy, so I hope your man puts some effort into making this easy for you.

VioletRayne · 31-35, F

@RealMustangGuy: [c=#4C0073]Hell no that bastard is going to torture me until I give in or make him give in😅[/c]