Will he realize ? My boyfriend left me after a bad month we had it wasnt everyday we would...

Memetic · 56-60, F

He has a drinking problem if he chooses it over a relationship. My guess is his drinking will get worse over time and he will treat you worse.

HeavenBesideYou · 56-60, F

12 years married to an alcoholic that was sober when I met him, and things were great for the first few years, but gradually became miserable for me. By the time I divorced him I was living in hell. I know it's hard, but my best advice to you is to do your best to let him go. He was right, y'all aren't a good fit. Hugs.

Mguinm · 51-55, F

Doesn't seem like he's too concerned with not talking to you and he's talking on snapchat a lot so that just says to me it's no big deal. For him to make you feel all alone while he's with his drinking buddies isn't cool either. It just sounds like he wants his freedom and it isn't going to work being in a relationship. Just let it be.

Simplegirlstory · 31-35, F

Why are you even stuck with such drunkard looser, he will just worsen your life, kick his ass right now and concentrate on improving your own life, I surely hope you haven't imagined such drunkard looser as your life partner so just leave that ass.

Picklebobble · 56-60, M

NOOOO! What are you thinking??
Let him go!
For whatever reason, at least he's had the decency to leave you alone!!
Anyone who hangs out with their friends excessively is certainly not ready for an adult relationship!
And what looks remotely likely to change if you get back together????
He'll just see that as validation of his destructive behaviour!
Clearly you are both on different pages at this point in time.

Breathingeasy · M

Why virtuous guys with no vices never stand a chance ? How many good girls regretted not having given me or geek friends a chance when I was your age?
Now the tables have turned : the drinkers and party goers are all losers . And we the geeks are successful and sought for .
Think about a real future . You dumped him because he is a loser !. Find Mr.perfect ! You deserve it !

Simplegirlstory · 31-35, F

Dear tiffany just imagine like this, ok you two got married and thing was perfect on honeymoon time but after few days he comes home drinking every night, he yells at you, he kicks at you and swears at you, he is not even handsome anymore, he has become smelly, hairy drunkard who only knows to drink most of the time. And there is high chance that such alcoholic people will have less life time and most of them will die vomiting blood everywhere since there heart will stop functioning in their early age. Are you ready for all these drama or are you not. Choose yourself. It is your life. Boyfriend comes and goes but life goes on, you are that one to choose better or worst life for yourself.

TiffanyCrownsFaye · 31-35, F

Well no I wouldn't want to deal with those dramas that would actually make me upset and sad he chose to destroy himself... The break up is still new so things still hurt but I'm moving towards a better me

Simplegirlstory · 31-35, F

Time will heal everything, concentrate in your study and career, be awesome person, be the type of person you want to meet then meet the type of person you deserve.

Breathingeasy · M

@Tiffany: big hug, I understand . Be strong and congratulations on the wonderful YOU that you are and the future and lucky guy that you deserve. 👍🏼☺️

Itsprincess · 26-30, F

If he said there's no future then just drop him. It's going to hurt much more if you are together longer and then it ends. I reckon just leave it and move on. If he gets back in touch then consider it (but only if he sounds genuine about changing). Personally I don't understand how someone can love someone but leave them for wanting to drink. But in my opinion, why waste any more time together if you're never going to last

TiffanyCrownsFaye · 31-35, F

Honestly I kind of did I met him and he was everything I ever wanted and then recently it all changed.. I just thought he would slow down eventually but honestly in the back of my mind I could have been a waste of time for me but I was willing to take the shot. I have goals and things I want to do I will focus on making myself better

Simplegirlstory · 31-35, F

Move on from that boyfriend topic, do some good work. Only boy is not the motive of girl. Make your life special, worthy so that atleast you can bring happiness in one persons life and be unique.

SW-User

Walk away. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Granted... all men have their problems but at least you should be able to pick the ones that affect you.

TiffanyCrownsFaye · 31-35, F

I believe he does have a problem. The night he broken up with me he told me he wasn't going to stop drinking anytime soon and we didn't have a future together....I know right then in there I should of said F***you and let the feelings go it's so dumb how the heart wants you to hold on to something your mind knows isn't right... I have hope he'll realize I'm better then a bottle

GeniUs · 56-60, M

She moved from a drunk to me (he always got 'lonely' when he'd had a few and couldn't pull) but she then went on to find somebody even more compatible after me (somebody who'd give her a family, I said no from the beginning).

TiffanyCrownsFaye · 31-35, F

Genius .. Where you the drunk guy? Or she was and moved on to a drunk like herself?

GeniUs · 56-60, M

I dated a girl who'd had the same problem, she moved on to someone much better.