@Newandimproved: I'm financially good, as I said, I understand him, didn't ask for much. Just to be present.
I'm personally very close to my father, and I would love if my children would have the same opportunity, but...Apparently, they won't.

@Agathalylee: given his response, probably best in the long run :)

@Goralski: I don't think so to be honest...

@Agathalylee: this ain't about you anymore

@Goralski: I know, but I'm financially good, and he really doesn't want to be involved with me or with them, so...It won't be necessary.

@updown2020: I actually thought long about child support but...As I said, I'm financially good.
And his responsibilities, he's already not facing them.
When he left me, he said things that hurt me badly, but it was things that I knew, and understood.
He said he wasn't ready, and he probably will never be. He said that he didn't want children, that he never imagined himself to be a parent. He said that he didn't want to have anything to do with them or with me. BUT he actually told me I will get child support. I refused.
I know him.
I saw it in his eyes how badly he didn't want this. And who am I to force him ? One should naturally face his mistakes. If he doesn't want to then...I don't need this.
Sorry if this is confusing, I'm a huge mess right now.
But thank you for your comment.

@Agathalylee: If you do not need his money that's great but again its not a matter of that it a matter of him living up to is responsibilities whether he want to or not and who are you to force him well you are the mother looking after your well the both of yours kids so you have every right to go after him. And if you really do not want the money well college is not cheap.

@kingfish2: Okay ?

@Agathalylee: I'm sorry, that must be pretty difficult. Feel free to message me if there's anything you want to talk about in private.

@JP1119: Thank you very much for your support.

@Agathalylee: You're welcome. You know, you look really cute in your avatar. Would you like to talk in private about your sexual experiences and fantasies? If not, that's okay, I completely understand.

@Flenflyys: won't argue that.

but it's like speeding on the highway - you know they can pull you over and give you a ticket

so if you speed, and you get caught, well, you know the rules

thankfully never was an issue for me

@Flenflyys: He was, and I actually understand him. But I expected him to be a bit more mature about this. I didn't want kids either, but it happened, and the kid is not going to pay for our mistakes. I just thought he would think the same. But no, he didn't.
I'm not even asking for child support, or for him to stay with me. I just wanted him to be present, just to tell them; Hey, that person is your dad, you actually have dad, even if he is not present, you have one. Because I know it will be important for them.
Doesn't matter now anyways...

@Agathalylee: Well if neither of you wanted kids why did no one think of using protection?

@Xuan12: Thank you, this supports me a lot.

@justJett: I suppose one ? I mean I don't know, that's why I said "they", still too early.

@justJett: Thank you for your concern.
Again, financially, I'm really good, even if I accepted the financial "help" it wouldn't serve much because I already have what is needed.
And as I said bellow...I can see how much he doesn't want this, how much he doesn't want to be involved.
I don't want to force something that is supposed to be in him, responsibility and maturity that is.
Again, sorry if this is a bit confusing. I don't have the words to express exactly how I feel about child support.

Well then, I guess in that case, you got a kid. Enjoy!

@SimplyTracie: you mean keep them up, don't you?

@justJett: That's not what I meant 😝

@SimplyTracie: LOL, I got it the first time 😌

@TyphoidJerry: You dont know the whole story.

You could say this about literally anything anyone says to you ever. Why sympathize with people at all then?

@kingfish2: Neither do you.