How long does it take you to get over someone?

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Magenta · F

If I was deeply connected and attached, (which I was) a long time. Many months and perhaps even years. There's no way it can be a precise amount of time. It took time to grow into them and it takes time to grow out of them.

It's like a grieving process.

LadyGrace ·

@Magenta: Yes, and one not to be rushed.

Magenta · F

Ugh, *sigh*. Yes we just have to suffer it..

LadyGrace ·

@Magenta: I don't think for the deep hurts we ever get completely over it, but learn to manage and live with it. I know the more I don't focus on it, the less I hurt of course. It comes less and less, but I don't believe in dwelling on it. We cannot move forward that way. Then when we find a new someone, it takes the pain away from the other. Each heal in their own time.

Magenta · F

LadyGrace...I don't think we do either, if we were truly bonded, it remains a part of us. It does lesson with time, thankfully. I hope. It's not happening much yet.

A new someone is not for me. I have NO desire and people are not replaceable, I don't replace. :-)

LadyGrace ·

@Magenta: I hate to hear that, as you deserve to be happy with a good companion. However, I'm just about at the same place you are. I'm not so sure there's anyone out there, but trying one last time. It would be sad to pine over someone the rest of our lives that obviously was not right for us. I refuse to do that. I don't believe anyone is worth that. Especially when they did not value us. I'm glad we valued ourselves enough to get out. It would have never worked.