Is it reasonable to expect your husband to do things for you that they wouldn't do for anyone else

or is that asking too much?

I was just having a conversation with a friend and she thinks that's unreasonable, but isn't that what happens when you're in love? You do things for them that you ordinarily wouldn't. Isn't that how you show that they aren't like the rest of them? Or am I way off on this?

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HikingMan · 51-55, M

Going abovecand beyond for a lover is one thing. Having your lover expecting it as normal is another.

VioletRayne · 36-40, F

@HikingMan: I mean no one has to, but then don't be upset when they leave for someone who does. If a guy claims to love me but treats me the same as everyone else, I wouldn't believe them. I would also be hesitant to trust that person. I associate that extra effort with love. I expect to get as good as I give. Anything less feels like settling to me.

HikingMan · 51-55, M

I can understand that. But in the end, if both people arw truly in love, there wouldn't be any expectations. Just the love and that would be enough.

VioletRayne · 36-40, F

@HikingMan: Maybe in an ideal world. I don't think it works that way in reality. Everyone has expectations

HikingMan · 51-55, M

Not I. Not like that anyway. My wife does things for me because she wants to. When she doesn't do those things, I don't ever think of it as a slight, nor does it affect the way I feel. She can do as she pleases

VioletRayne · 36-40, F

@HikingMan: You're a very unique individual then.

HikingMan · 51-55, M

Um..., thanks, I think. I just always assumed it was normal.