Cliff Hanger

I lost my boyfriend a month ago and I can't stop thinking about him. He was my best friend and I would do anything for him still. He told me he wanted to keep me in his life, but we needed time away from each other. He blocked me on everything but keeps my family and friends on and talks to my sister almost daily. I want to think that's his way of staying in my life somehow, but I don't even know. He said he wanted me to grow up and experience the world more and he wasn't going anywhere..yet one of my friends sent me a picture of him back on a dating app. My sister showed me a picture of him and all he's been doing is drinking, which is off because he is against drinking. When I send him messages, they go unanswered.

I guess the TL:DR is, why can't I just get over him. Is it normal to feel this amount of pain? Will he come back..?

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ZVoid · 26-30, M

You can consider the possibility of him coming back, but it wouldn't make sense for him to come back to you in this current state. You should use this time to further develop yourself as an individual.

WiseValentine · 26-30, M

@ZVoid: True, True. Thank you. Should I have been over it by now? How long does "heartbreak" last?

ZVoid · 26-30, M

@WiseValentine: It can last forever, if you let it be so. There is no 'should', you can afford to give yourself time to deal with it emotionally, but you'll reach a point where nothing else can be done. Thats when you take a step back and evaluate your actions, emotions and decide how exactly you wish to move.

Ive used this analogy quite a lot. Problem with people is when faced with darkness, they tend to shut their eyes. Giving up on movement altogether. If only they opened their eyes, they'd notice the outlines and the path. No matter what you do, don't avoid your feelings.

Hope things get better for you.

WiseValentine · 26-30, M

@ZVoid: Thanks dude. Very well put.. You're awesome. :)

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