What to do if you are attracted to the real bad sort?

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SW-User

The bad ones can be attractive because it is out of the norm for you, but they aren't going to be the one that will be right for you. It's nice to explore, but don't count on it being long term and if it does last awhile the up and downs might be more than you want in your life.

IcePrincess · 22-25, F

@hyg346: What if you are both of the bad sort?

SW-User

Would that make it any better? I mean instead of one being a disruptive effect on a relationship, you both do it. That can destabilize a relationship even faster?

IcePrincess · 22-25, F

@hyg346: It can be on both sides of the spectrum...not always bad...

SW-User

@IcePrincess: true

IcePrincess · 22-25, F

@hyg346: It would be perfect for a damaged person like me since BPD makes normal relationships like that

SW-User

You just need to find the person, good or bad, that'll accept you for you. :) BPD, bi-polar disorder?

IcePrincess · 22-25, F

@hyg346: Borderline Personality Disorder

SW-User

@IcePrincess: ah ok. I have known someone like you. Yeah, that can be tough to deal with, but I do not know if someone with problems of their own would be a good fit for you. You'd want someone that can bring stability to your life not amplify the chaos and make it worse right?

IcePrincess · 22-25, F

@hyg346: Unintentionally self-destructive...borderline characteristic

SW-User

@IcePrincess: I guess the best thing I can say is find someone that loves you unconditionally for who you are and accepts you for all of your flaws. As long as you're happy that's all that matters :)

IcePrincess · 22-25, F

@hyg346: And then I will always keep wanting more...

SW-User

There's nothing wrong with wanting more and wanting better for yourself

IcePrincess · 22-25, F

@hyg346: There is...that's why SW is full of unsatisfied wives and husbands