What to do if you are attracted to the real bad sort?

@Halcyon: What if it's the real bad side that's attractive?

@Halcyon: What if I say yes?

@IcePrincess: It's not going to be everything, you really need to sit down and think about it. It is possible to find someone that gives you most of these things but is still a good person. I pretty much understand your dilemma and your needs but you need to figure out how to get them met without putting yourself in danger. That is your responsibility to yourself. There is nothing wrong with liking any of it, the problem is how your'e choosing to fulfill them. Does that make sense?

@Halcyon: It somewhat does

Well don't stop there, what am I missing or what am I not making clear dear?

@Halcyon: You basically told me it's my choice but nothing on what to choose...while I don't want you to decide for me I'd appreciate your input on that as well