How is it not possible to have felt romantic love by 20 or 25 at the latest?

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Sorry but, I am 31 and I have never experienced love let alone romantic love from anyone. I have met many guys in my life and all every guy I've ever met only seems to be interested in is quick, free no emotional strings attached sex and what I have in my wallet or even in my house in some cases and they couldn't care less about my feelings as a person whatsoever. These guys have no interest in real relationships at all and once they have had their fill of what they came for they will just leave and move on to the next poor sap. When I say every guy I've ever met I mean every single sexually able guy young or old with no exceptions and that includes the married ones and even those who plan to get married and have a fiance. Everything tends to be just fine with most guys and some even seem pretty amazing until the moment I end up somewhere completely alone with them where they feel they can do or say whatever they want without any real reprocaution. I've actually given up on the idea of romantic relationships altogether even though many guys still try. They have just become far too easy to read and my attempts at real relationships never turn out well and often end up with nightmarish results that I wouldn't wish on my enemies.

Please don't get me wrong, I'm not going to claim that all guys are bad as this world is quite large and contains a massive amount of people that may even have a similar mindset to me in regards as to what love and romantic love should be. Let's just say that my extremely bad luck in this Blunderland that we are in has made it to where I can no longer trust anyone anymore whatsoever, let alone the idea of a romantic relationship and have no desire to try for romantic or even sexual relationships with anyone anymore.

okaybut · 56-60, M

@AliceInBlunderland This amazes me. Any time I approach anyone in the realm of friendship or romance, I look for what I can offer them (take as well, but I have to be able to enrich their lives in some way). With this approach, I have/had amazing friendships and women I have loved (still do). What you are outlining sounds so sad. I just don't understand.

okaybut · 56-60, M

@AliceInBlunderland I feel in love with a 24 year old woman and there is some insight there. She mentions how all her friends are only looking for and getting meaningless sex. Many are extremely sad...and keep tying to use empty sex to fill themselves up. So it could be a younger ages thing and not so much my generation (oh but the many pervs on here are not a good sample)?

AliceInBlunderland · 36-40, F

@okaybut Like I said, my problem was with every single guy I ever met that was physically able to have sex and believe it or not, I tend to get hit on far more by old guys looking for sex than young ones. These guys not interested in dating or relationships let alone guys looking for friendships and romance. If you think genitalia pics online are tasteless then you should see some of the things guys will do offline. Believe it or not things can always get far worse which is why I now prefer to live alone.

okaybut · 56-60, M

@AliceInBlunderland I am in shock with what you are saying. It is so foreign to me. None of the people I know are like this. Have you lived in different places and it is the same??

AliceInBlunderland · 36-40, F

@okaybut I live in the USA and have moved around pretty much all my life with no place that that I could ever truly call home. I have lived in the states of Alabama, Georgia and Indiana and have visited many others. All have been the same. I tried online relationships with many different people across the world with no luck there either. I guess I just have really bad luck.