Why is it that everytime I find someone I'm interested in I seem to become a friend instead of more.

In all honesty, I understand sometimes people just aren't interested. But sometimes if you enjoy being around someone those feelings turn into more without you even knowing it's happening. I just feel like I can't talk to her about it because she doesn't feel that way, at least not right now. I miss feeling close to someone and a part of a family. I want nothing more than to hold her hand and just feel like I'm connecting.

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WildHeart · 41-45, F

Sometimes all a person is interested in is friendship. Falling for someone is beyond anyone's control, its not her fault that she is unable to reciprocate your feelings. Feelings have a mind of their own.

convertedshell · 46-50, M

@WiseGirl: I know, I understand that. I'm not faulting her at all for it. I'm just in a depressed state this weekend I guess. I'm the last person in the world that would fault someone for feeling or not feeling something.

SW-User

It's time to try someone else. That's how you beat the odds.

convertedshell · 46-50, M

@Peekaboo: Yeah, I've been told that other times as well. I just have trouble do it it I guess. I put all of myself into trying to get to know someone. I suppose it's just my wiring. It's hard for me to let go of a possibility. We are good friends and text alot and hang out. I guess it just takes time for me to be able to move away from those feelings inside me.

SW-User

@convertedshell: Being friend-zoned is the end of possibility.

convertedshell · 46-50, M

@Peekaboo: Yeah, so I've heard. I guess I just am hoping against hope interactions might change. I am thankful for a friend though. Outside of where I work, she's the only friend I have where I live. I guess that's part of the trouble and why I am always worried about overstepping boundaries. I listen, I chat, I try to make sure she's having a good day and try to cheer her up if she's not. She's had troubled relationships in the past and I see parts of my own personality in her so I feel for her when she's down. Sometimes I hate how my heart works, other times, I cherish it.

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