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Never approached or asked out

I feel so sad and forever alone because guys never approach me and I don't understand. I am 5'6 and weigh 125 lbs and I don't think I am ugly. I have a babyface and since I am thin, some people think I look younger than my age (I am 21 but some people think I look 14!). I even one time ended up talking to a guy and he assumed I had a boyfriend, when I said no, he was in shock. He said I am a very beautiful/pretty girl and that he sees ugly women with bfs all the time. Strangers (men and women) tell me I am pretty/beautiful. I don't go to bars or clubs.

However, I am never the girl that is approached for dates or for my number in public anywhere! Unless men only approach ‘easy women’, and I guess I would not be classified as ‘easy.’ One time a guy cold approached and hit on a girl by asking for her number while I was standing right in front of her. This really hurt my esteem because I never get this type of attention. I keep doubting my attractiveness and that there is a possibility that I am not as attractive because no guys ever approach me for dates or to hit on me. They only say I am beautiful in the street and keep walking or when I happen to be in a conversation with a guy, he will tell me I am beautiful. Or, once in a blue moon, I see a guy stare at me openly and it looks like he is about to approach me but he never does it. I once caught a random guy staring at me in a train station and he looked away in embarrassment.

I don't understand why guys aren't interested enough to approach me directly for my number or dates?
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Aidan · 26-30, F
Don't worry it has nothing to do with how attractive you are. Though I understand where you are coming from with looking younger. No one ever really approaches me either and I think thats why because I look younger. I think guys tend to like women with nature faces. Though I decided to flirt my way to a boyfriend and I've been with him 3yrs now.
@Nonexistent: Guys are so used to being rejected, by women that if you flirt with a guy, he will likely reciprocate in kind. Never mind attractiveness, all guys want is a woman who is attracted to him. Unfortunately, most men do not get such attention from women.
Aidan · 26-30, F
@Ax17x7: well my bf did lol
@Nonexistent:Your boyfriend showed interest in you? Did you show interest in him first?
Aidan · 26-30, F
@Ax17x7: yes I did
@Nonexistent: So you showed interest in him?

Then it's no surprise that he showed interest in you. Like I said, all a man wants is a woman who shows interest in him. It is women who require more.