Anyone been a member of the dreaded ILIASM club and managed to turn things around?

*pops in* If you mean that you are asking can you turn a sexless marriage around, no one ever has, to my knowledge. Baz, originally from that forum, and now happily with another, never mentioned anyone who had. He knew the stats. I left mine over 4 years ago. Happier now than ever in my life. I doubt anyone will respond yes to this.

The answer is no and i know this because I searched long and hard in EP for someone who solved this. The best I found was a woman who learned to live with her hubbies lack of drive while staying faithful. She focused on all his good qualities.

So there you go.