Why do women like to drive themselves crazy with theatrics??

I'm seeing this girl and we get along well and enjoy one another's company... We both have children from a previous marriage and I want to take things slow....and not jump in head first.....I've told her this.... Here's what she messaged to me tonight (we're going to a fancy masquerade ball soon):

"So I was thinking about why am I so anxious about going to the masquerade or not as I usually don't get anxious about anything. I think it's because in my mind it would be a fun and special getaway for a couple. I know that you are not ready for anything more than just seeing each other and still seek attention from other women. So it makes me feel like we are going but as friends who occasionally sleep together and I'm not ok with that. I thought I would be, but I'm not. I'm a great person with a lot to offer the right person and I deserve to be with someone who actually wants to know me and be with me. I feel that sometimes you are seeing me until someone in your eyes is better comes along. You were right about me being conservative. If conservative means being passionate and giving the person I am with 100%."

(and here I thought she was acting strange and irritated because her dress she ordered hasn't shown up yet)

*women of similar worlds.....please explain to me why you think this way??*

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SStarfish ·

she wants to be exclusive with you and she's annoyed at you for not commiting to her already. or at least being serious with her.. she feels like you're using her for casual dating 😒 and she wants more than that from you already..

on a side note.. idk why women want so much commitment all the time.. it's a prison.. but I guess we are nuts like that and want to be special and have a guy under our thumb to ourself who isn't trying to get with other women..

like damn.. we aren't getting any younger

Mongoheadmonster · 41-45, M

@ZeroG: I wonder if she'd like mowing grass 🤔

sunsetsoareomyofavourite · 22-25, F

Why you? Hell it isn't me or so 😂.
You know not every woman is the same.
1) i wouldn't be so confident or wouldn't talk so good about myself
2) i have no plan why she says this. Maybe she wants this certainty. And something serious. Did you ever gave her the feeling that you don't want something serious?

iMystery · M

@Unicorn: [quote]I want to take things slow....and not jump in head first.....I've told her this[/quote]

Yip he told her this

sunsetsoareomyofavourite · 22-25, F

@iMystery: but why should she have trust issues in that way because of the sentences?
I mean it just means that he just doesn't want to rush it.

Mongoheadmonster · 41-45, M

@Unicorn: no...I just said to her awhile back when she was asking me: "when to tell the kids we're seeing eachother"...and I was like "not yet"...I'm in no rush to introduce someone new yet. I mean it takes awhile to really get to know someone IMO

darktippedrose · 36-40, F

I am thinking that because you aren't ready to put a "label" on you two, that it makes her feel insecure. She probably still wants to feel like something is certain and that you aren't browsing around.

thats what I'm thinking. Personally.

Mongoheadmonster · 41-45, M

Meanwhile we have a great time when we do things together...only started seeing one another less than two months ago....once, twice a week that type of thing.

MsAnnThropy

I don't think this way. 😠

Mongoheadmonster · 41-45, M

@MsAnnThropy: Then you're a minority among your gender

bijouxbroussard · F

What is "theatrical" about her knowing (and stating) what she wants ? You either respect how she feels or you don't, which would be the only reason to belittle what she's telling you.

Mongoheadmonster · 41-45, M

@bijouxbroussard: I guess I am not the poetic get down on one knee and confess my love type....no no....I've been burnt to the ground before by a girl in the past who I loved and married and had children with... Only to have her run off and leave me for someone else...leaving me in a house full of memories destroyed....

I'm taking things slowly and protecting my inner core until I'm ready. In the meantime, like I told her, I do like her company and enjoy our little thing we have. If that is too slow for her then she can simply move on.

bijouxbroussard · F

@Mongoheadmonster: That's true, she can. Sounds like a complicated situation; you're "gun-shy", she's afraid of being used. 🙁

Mongoheadmonster · 41-45, M

Ya that sums it up. It's funny (not haha funny)...but her telling me this stuff last night has made me want to distance myself 🤔

caccoon · 36-40

Sounds pretty straightforward to me? Seems like she's looking for a more serious, committed relationship, and is realizing that now, and letting you know.

I don't think it seems like theatrics, unless someone would like to enlighten me.

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