I want to make friends in my area, but my wife is too shy

So our weekends we always keep to ourself. She doesn't even like when family comes over. I have looked for meetups with other parents, but I can't get her out of her shell. What's funny, is she is much better at conversation then I am, but she doesn't seem to miss socializing, because she can just talk to her mom every night.

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AliceinWonderland · F

She might be an introvert, but it's healthy for her to make a few friends. She needs to get out of her comfort zone. And it's good for you to have friends. Did you talk to her about how you feel?

hideout · 36-40, M

Yes, but she has a way of turning the conversation on its head, where suddenly I'm either the bad guy, or being unreasonable. I'm bad at communicating my feeling sometimes. So it probably comes off as critical.

VioletDreams · 36-40, F

@Eyetrace: why do you want her to have friends? I'm a bit of an introvert myself so i understand where she is coming from. but is her introversion affecting your relationship at home or is it that you want HER to make friends or you want to double date or somerhing?

AliceinWonderland · F

@Eyetrace: you expressed yourself well here. maybe you should write out how you feel and tell her it's easier for you to write it out and let her read it.

hideout · 36-40, M

I want to spend time with more people then just her. I want to experience more in life then work on weekdays and chores and maybe dinner when it's just trying to get the kids calm enough so we can eat.

hideout · 36-40, M

I would feel embarrassed. Maybe.