Is it normal?

For a guy to reward and punish you.. Like if you say something bad and don't do what he wants and he ignores you for a week on purpose and then comes back? He says he does this with everyone and it's the only way to teach people how to act towards him otherwise they don't change

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Xena1234 · 51-55, F

He is a real controller. I have a feeling that if his childish tactics don't work, then he will become very abusive. He needs to have his tactics turned back on him.

Jackaloftheazuresand · 26-30, M

He likely learned them from someone else already

Itsprincess · 22-25, F

I think he might already be abusive.. Calling me crazy and all sorts of names because I'm getting deprrssed from his behaviour

Xena1234 · 51-55, F

@Itsprincess: Yes, he is being emotionally/verbally abusive. Take it from someone who knows: He will eventually also become physically abusive. You deserve better. Get out while you still can. He is Not going to change, no matter what you do.

Itsprincess · 22-25, F

@Xena1234: aw sorry that you've gone through that:/ yeah he did message me when I skipped college 'do I have to hit you?' 😩 yeah I guess I'm trying to let go of the hope I have

Xena1234 · 51-55, F

@Itsprincess: He has already told and shown you is abusive. Please, don't stay with him. It Never works.

Itsprincess · 22-25, F

Okay I wont. Thank you:)

Xena1234 · 51-55, F

@Itsprincess: I know it is easier said than done. Believe me, I tried and tried and went back to him. Finally, one day I finally realized that I had to care about myself, and that he was too damaged. I wish you the best.

Itsprincess · 22-25, F

@Xena1234: oh really:/ I'm thinking I'm gonna change my phone number and delete accounts so that I can't go back to him haha. Thanks😊