My husband and I found each other because my BFF called him and told him he should meet her boss. They had known each other and knew we would hit it off. From my perspective I was drug out to have a girls night out and a beautiful, tall, muscular, and blue eyed man asked me to dance . We danced the night away until my ride said it was time to go . I only told him good bye . The next day , a large vas of roses landed on my desk … and he has been n my life everyday since . We clicked , worked out the problems , and the love of my life became my best buddy too!

I think we’ve become so focused on finding a relationship that we sometimes skip the part where we actually get to know the person.

Friendship gives us the space and time to be curious about the other person without immediately assigning meaning to every interaction.

You get to see how someone thinks, how they treat people, how they make you laugh, how comfortable silence feels and whether you genuinely enjoy being around each other.

I like what you said about letting it flow like a well-written poem.

We don’t have to know the ending at the beginning. We don’t have to attach a meaning right away.

Some of the best connections and most memorable relationships in my life started out as friends, sharing common interests and life values.

When the attraction was recognized to exist, it was not difficult to fall in love deeply.

I think that being friends first is the best thing you can do.
It moves into a relationship okay, but if it doesn't you still have a friend.
The best relationships, I think ,are based on friendships.
I don't think you stop being a friend if you do move on to a relationship you keep the friendship it just deepens into a romance as well.

I think that is a great way to start a relationship.

I’m definitely a fan of friends first. I’d like to establish whether I genuinely enjoy someone’s company before hormones and poor judgment get a vote.

I’d like it that way, I am guilty of having that part be short, sometimes just a few days. 🤷🏻‍♀

My now wife and I were friends for several months before it grew (a little awkwardly) into something else. It worked very well for us.

I just told the story of how my wife and I met last night. Doing things as friends for many months before anything like exclusive dating. Just slow but steady learning about each other and building trust.
Now I’m finding out a simple date implies exclusively, everyone is a hurry to have a relationship but worse in my short experience; they want to mold you to their wants and needs.

People are too impatient

I would so much prefer to go slow. Every time I say friends first it gets taken as rejection but to me it's the first respect. To allow each other the time to build trust, learn who the other person is and enjoy every phase of together. A friend and a lover would be amazing.

That's what I prefer but it's outdated

That's how my wife and I got to know each other at first.

Likewise with my daughter and my son-in-law.

Seems like guys are afraid of being friend zoned... is this why they don't behave like normal people when dating? I wish they could just treat us like fellow humans.

Seems to be only sexual compatibility is the most important requirement these days 🤷🏻‍♀

Never worked well in my experience, you end up in the awkward in between zone, more than friends less than relationship. If you both know it's going to be a relationship just start it that way, takes out a lot of confusion and frustration on both parties

the best connections happen naturally. You just get to know each other, enjoy talking, and see where things go without forcing anything.

Not feasible

I loathe ambiguity, that's why.

People are losing their virtue of patience🫤

And i dont get it.
We should enjoy the moments.
Have no expectations

If youre to busy looking towards someone filling some niche, then do you really see them for who they are......or who you want them to be 🤷‍♀