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Poppies Just wish for once in their life they could have some sense "look im not someone you know has a personality that will cause the relationship to inevitably fall apart, im a neurotypical one and an ambitious, intelligent one at that. You are an adult and as time goes by you will need support in your life so stop playing these games". But yeah wont work.
I just messaged her this, as im having to lay everything out like a legal document to avoid her gaslighting and throwing 100 irrelevant nitpicks at everything I've said:
"I'll get it laid out, whilst it's fresh on my mind. You said "sure" to the proposition of being serious and getting a date sorted, and so..
1. To avoid a situation in which neither us of believe the other has decided they aren't interested in talking or meeting, we will maintain a daily contact.
2. To avoid a situation in which either of us offends or thinks we may have offended the other, this daily contact will involve only a) Discussion of media we enjoy/hobbies, b) discussion about work c) discussing what we will do at the meetup and organising measures to facilitate the meetup under those conditions.
As you stated, you want to be serious about a relationship and don't want their to be arguments. I also want to be serious about the relationship and don't want there to be any arguments or anything else setting back the meetup.
And so, are you therefore serious and so in agreement with those terms that we will BOTH have? That's a "yes", or "no" question".
She'll create an excuse to cancel the meet (she's done it lots, she's disordered and just wants the attention of men, triangulating them against a 5 years ago ex she still chooses to feature on her IG), I'll delete her and then share her antics including the messages with the rest of the church. If I've learned everything these last few days, it's that we need to start holding horrible people accountable.
