Be honest with me, is this unrealistic?
Meeting someone who is largely only interested in you? Is it now a case of there being 5 other people they have their eye on? 🙄 I have a theory about this..
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hartfire · 61-69
Depends on the person.
Some are naturally keen on only one person; others will always be interested in variety and the new.
Most are somewhere in between.
Uncountable reasons for variation:
- no two humans are the same, many people have difficulty coping with difference;
- some traits are off-putting, we might or might not know what these traits are in ourselves;
- phase of partner hunting, "window shopping" versus ready to settle down;
- genetically endowed degree of oxytocin (ability to create long term bond & the impulse to defend that bond);
- fear of intimacy, commitment, entrapment, responsibility, or being used by the other;
- personal confidence in own attractiveness;
- user or player, seduces & fucks for own gratification, gives nothing, no care about STD's, pregnancies, feelings;
- sincerity of personal or moral values or lack thereof;
- intitial interest can fade, especially if first impressions proved not quite right.
I'm sure others could add many more to this list
Some are naturally keen on only one person; others will always be interested in variety and the new.
Most are somewhere in between.
Uncountable reasons for variation:
- no two humans are the same, many people have difficulty coping with difference;
- some traits are off-putting, we might or might not know what these traits are in ourselves;
- phase of partner hunting, "window shopping" versus ready to settle down;
- genetically endowed degree of oxytocin (ability to create long term bond & the impulse to defend that bond);
- fear of intimacy, commitment, entrapment, responsibility, or being used by the other;
- personal confidence in own attractiveness;
- user or player, seduces & fucks for own gratification, gives nothing, no care about STD's, pregnancies, feelings;
- sincerity of personal or moral values or lack thereof;
- intitial interest can fade, especially if first impressions proved not quite right.
I'm sure others could add many more to this list