Why r people overusing "ghosting"

@Zeuro

Talking to somebody for a month is a relationship

@pdockal no it isn’t. If you text someone 2-3 times a week and have them over 4-5 times in a month, are seeing other people as well, and most importantly, do not establish that you are in a relationship, then you are not in a relationship. You are, however, obligated to say something before cutting all contact.

@Zeuro

Now you are shifting your argument.

What I said stands: if people are interacting at the levels you described, they are clearly in a relationship. Not a committed relationship, perhaps--and you even raising "implicitly" is a whole can of its own worms, as one party can often feel as though there was an implicit commitment...--but a relationship nonetheless.

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lol

Perhaps the person exiting doesn't like confrontation--e.g., the way you are really digging in!--and just doesn't want to be savaged, potentially, by someone whom he or she has decided they don't want or need in their own life, for their own reasons.

The interaction started because they allowed it; now they are disallowing it. Since you don't recognize uncommitted relationships as examples of relationships, I hope "interaction" is acceptable, since you have a very narrow definition of relationship.

So what do you call those levels of interaction? And why do you think you are owed ANYthing by a person who is not in that tiny set of "[committed] relationship"?

@Zeuro

I see from a didn't reply that you don't understand what a relationship is

@SomeMichGuy

She doesn't have an understanding of relationship and probably English in general

@SomeMichGuy by your logic, you have no obligation to hold the door open for the frail old lady walking directly behind you, because you aren’t dating her. So you owe her absolutely no human decency, right??? 🙄

@Zeuro not everything needs a detailed explanation. It's just awkward for both and kind of pointless.

@SomeMichGuy it’s actually not inconsistent at all, you just can’t seem to think critically. Sex does not equal a relationship, that is your first failure of reasoning. What you describe, someone you’ve fucked deciding to go/do someone/something else, is not what ghosting is. When someone is hooking up with someone casually, they already are perfectly free to go fuck other people and do other things, so that is another area where your attempt at logic failed.

Casual sex is only as “meaningful” as any other kind non relationship connection you may have with a person, for instance, a platonic friend you get coffee with sometimes. So you’re wrong on that account as well.

With all that, none of that means that someone is not obligated to say something before cutting ties, rather than block the person on everything, without any indication as to whether they were mad about something they did or said, just got bored of their interactions, had life circumstances change in a way that precludes them from continuing with such interactions, etc.

If you can’t be bothered to send a simple “hey, I no longer am able/want to continue doing xyz with you, and wish to cease communication” and instead block them on everything without a word, ESPECIALLY when you’ve already established plans to see the person again, then you’re fucking lazy and a coward, and you’re a dipshit for thinking otherwise.

@Zeuro

Your trying to explain something to someone you don't have a clue about .... that's so laughable

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@MethDozer I said nothing about a detailed explanation. I said an explanation.. Saying “I’m no longer interested” or “I need to focus on other things” or “my life circumstances make this untenable” are not detailed explanations

@Zeuro

You keep proving my point @ your limited understanding of language .... wait let's use words so you might understand 🤔 😏

@pdockal haha, that’s a funny joke coming from someone with a demonstrably much lower verbal IQ who doesn’t even attempt to provide a valid argument or evidence to your point

@Zeuro

I did but in your infinite wisdom you missed it
i did but in your infinite wisdom you continue to ignore facts, rules etc to fit your opinions & narratives
in your infinite wisdom you choose to attempt to belittle me with your superiority

@pdockal there’s nothing to ignore when you don’t provide anything. Show me exactly where you provided facts and an argument. Quote the exact line. I suspect you will decline to do so under the guise of indignant refusal as an attempt to mask your inability, but feel free to prove me wrong.

@pdockal and thank you for your acknowledgment of my verbal superiority.

@Zeuro


Yes, it is inconsistent, and you are the one who is feeling hurt because your demands of what other people "MUST" do aren't being met.

People don't need to be either consistent or agree with you about trigger thresholds for "MUST explain" when they decide--through some reasoned methodology which you might find "acceptable" or just on a whim/for no particular reason--<insert whatever you imagine their reason to discontinue wanting to see you> and just fail to meet what you have deemed their responsibilities to you...

Besides the fact that you are like a vicious, hurt animal which has been cornered and you are lashing out at anyone who dare to disagree with you, I'll note that

a) you dribble out more details here and there which were not part of your original set-up, and

b) you're obviously very hurt, but

c) because you ARE hurt AND you are making demands upon the persons who have ghosted you...FACE IT: these WERE a form of "RELATIONSHIP" to YOU

If they had really been NO relationship, you'd not be trying to behead them all and be oblivious to the craziness of your line of argument.

NO relationship = NO expectations

You are hugely hurt; you were invested.

It's ok to just admit it was an asymmetric interaction. Just say you realize they "used" you, but at least be honest about how you felt/feel. A person doesn't go on and on and on and do these crazy contortions because they were in a no expectations, NON-relationship.

Direct some of what you think is your amazingly cogent, penetrating analysis toward yourSELF and your algorithms for

• selecting sexual partners/allowing access to your body;

• not explicitly setting expectations with that person for your demands for what you argue is NOT a relationship;

• becoming so emotionally invested that you get to where you are now, because of a meaningless NON-relationship.

Or just get a Sybian or f_ck machine or whatever and then you'll not have the confusing nonsense of trying to understand why others can't meet your demands/expectations regarding a non"relationship".

@Zeuro

Like i said your clueless ... i acknowledged nothing ... if your were actually what you boast you are you would see that ...

If I'm NOT mistaken you have another opinion that concurs with my assessment

I guess we're both WRONG ?????

@pdockal nah you’re the only one who’s wrong here. As evidenced by your lack of intellect and communication skills.