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Why r people overusing "ghosting"

it cannot be applied to literally any situation, it is only when we are in a relationship or it is assumed so, and a person dissapears

another thing it doesnt have to mean i dont like you, its just i cant pursue everything right
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Zeuro · 26-30, F
You don’t need to be in a relationship. If you’ve been talking to someone for a month and have gone on a couple dates, and then just block the person out of the blue without an explanation, that is indeed ghosting. Even if someone’s just a casual repeat hookup, dropping off the face of the earth without a word is just rude
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pdockal · 56-60, M
@Zeuro

Talking to somebody for a month is a relationship
Zeuro · 26-30, F
@pdockal no it isn’t. If you text someone 2-3 times a week and have them over 4-5 times in a month, are seeing other people as well, and most importantly, do not establish that you are in a relationship, then you are not in a relationship. You are, however, obligated to say something before cutting all contact.
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@Zeuro
no they don’t. If it is not explicitly or even implicitly established that you are in a committed relationship, then you just aren’t.

Now you are shifting your argument.

What I said stands: if people are interacting at the levels you described, they are clearly in a relationship. Not a committed relationship, perhaps--and you even raising "implicitly" is a whole can of its own worms, as one party can often feel as though there was an implicit commitment...--but a relationship nonetheless.



And frankly, anyone who considers any level of explanation whatsoever too much “effort,” is completely selfish and lazy as fucking Hell.

lol

Perhaps the person exiting doesn't like confrontation--e.g., the way you are really digging in!--and just doesn't want to be savaged, potentially, by someone whom he or she has decided they don't want or need in their own life, for their own reasons.

The interaction started because they allowed it; now they are disallowing it. Since you don't recognize uncommitted relationships as examples of relationships, I hope "interaction" is acceptable, since you have a very narrow definition of relationship.

So what do you call those levels of interaction? And why do you think you are owed ANYthing by a person who is not in that tiny set of "[committed] relationship"?
pdockal · 56-60, M
@Zeuro

I see from a didn't reply that you don't understand what a relationship is

@SomeMichGuy

She doesn't have an understanding of relationship and probably English in general
Zeuro · 26-30, F
@SomeMichGuy by your logic, you have no obligation to hold the door open for the frail old lady walking directly behind you, because you aren’t dating her. So you owe her absolutely no human decency, right??? 🙄
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MethDozer · M
@Zeuro not everything needs a detailed explanation. It's just awkward for both and kind of pointless.