Am I Right to Ignore Girls Who Like Me for My Ex’s Friend 🥹 – need Advice?
My ex has a friend—let’s call her “B.” My ex is married now, but we still talk like friends. Despite that, my thoughts are completely tied up in B, and because of this, I’ve let many other opportunities with other girls slip by.
1. There’s this one girl who’s an Architect. She’s really into me—picks me up from work on her bike and even drops me home. She’s always asking me out on dates. I’ve gone out with her once or twice, but the whole time, I kept thinking of B. I couldn’t stop imagining how, if I were out with B instead, she’d see I am a good guy. I don’t like this architect much, though. She drinks a lot, is always ready to get physical, and openly shares about her past relationships—she has a good “body count.”
2. Then there’s a psychologist friend from college who’s into me a lot I’ve avoided meeting her. To be honest, her height makes me uncomfortable—she’s taller than me, and I feel awkward about it. She’s really beautiful, but I can’t imagine introducing her to my family or friends.
3. There was also a Muslim Arab girl (Tunisian) who I regret losing. She was 19, had never had a boyfriend, and was completely infatuated with me. Like a Fan Girl. She used to ask me to sing for her, and she’d sing for me too. Our chats would often take a flirty, naughty turn. But because I kept ignoring her and taking too long to reply, she eventually got fed up and blocked me. I really regret that now.
4. Then there’s another girl I liked, who seems to be moving on. She’s started seeing someone else but still keeps me on her Instagram “Close Friends” list. She posts stories with subtle quotes like, “Choose people who prioritize you,” clearly aimed at me. She denies being in a relationship when I ask, but I know through mutual friends that she’s dating the guy. Sometimes she messages me, dropping sad hints that she still wants me, but I just laugh it off, not knowing how to respond.
Now back to the real mess—my feelings for B developed in recent months. My ex and I had a toxic relationship that ended peacefully, and we’ve maintained some level of friendship. B, though, is someone I’ve grown very fond of. I love her personality—she’s calm, kind, and has such a peaceful nature. She’s very Religious, and pious, she has a saint like aura about her.
But I’m scared to make a move. If I ask her out, there’s a chance she might tell my ex. And my ex, being this supermodel-type, would definitely judge me for being interested in someone like B, who, truth be told, is nowhere near her level in terms of looks or lifestyle. B works a simple job, barely earning enough to get by, and I can’t help but wonder if she even likes me. Her replies are always shallow, and she never messages me first.
Sometimes I think about asking my ex about B’s personal life—like if she has a boyfriend—but I hold back because I know my toxic ex will laugh at me for being interested in her. My ex is always jealous that I will find someone hotter than her I don’t wanna make her happy.
It’s a constant dilemma. The women who want me are ambitious and successful—an architect, a psychologist—but the one I want has nothing to her name And yet, she’s the only one who truly matters to me but she’s the only one Least interested in me.
What can I do ? I Really want her, I post religious stories on Instagram sometimes to grab her attention. Which is totally against my Ideals I am Agnostic..
1. There’s this one girl who’s an Architect. She’s really into me—picks me up from work on her bike and even drops me home. She’s always asking me out on dates. I’ve gone out with her once or twice, but the whole time, I kept thinking of B. I couldn’t stop imagining how, if I were out with B instead, she’d see I am a good guy. I don’t like this architect much, though. She drinks a lot, is always ready to get physical, and openly shares about her past relationships—she has a good “body count.”
2. Then there’s a psychologist friend from college who’s into me a lot I’ve avoided meeting her. To be honest, her height makes me uncomfortable—she’s taller than me, and I feel awkward about it. She’s really beautiful, but I can’t imagine introducing her to my family or friends.
3. There was also a Muslim Arab girl (Tunisian) who I regret losing. She was 19, had never had a boyfriend, and was completely infatuated with me. Like a Fan Girl. She used to ask me to sing for her, and she’d sing for me too. Our chats would often take a flirty, naughty turn. But because I kept ignoring her and taking too long to reply, she eventually got fed up and blocked me. I really regret that now.
4. Then there’s another girl I liked, who seems to be moving on. She’s started seeing someone else but still keeps me on her Instagram “Close Friends” list. She posts stories with subtle quotes like, “Choose people who prioritize you,” clearly aimed at me. She denies being in a relationship when I ask, but I know through mutual friends that she’s dating the guy. Sometimes she messages me, dropping sad hints that she still wants me, but I just laugh it off, not knowing how to respond.
Now back to the real mess—my feelings for B developed in recent months. My ex and I had a toxic relationship that ended peacefully, and we’ve maintained some level of friendship. B, though, is someone I’ve grown very fond of. I love her personality—she’s calm, kind, and has such a peaceful nature. She’s very Religious, and pious, she has a saint like aura about her.
But I’m scared to make a move. If I ask her out, there’s a chance she might tell my ex. And my ex, being this supermodel-type, would definitely judge me for being interested in someone like B, who, truth be told, is nowhere near her level in terms of looks or lifestyle. B works a simple job, barely earning enough to get by, and I can’t help but wonder if she even likes me. Her replies are always shallow, and she never messages me first.
Sometimes I think about asking my ex about B’s personal life—like if she has a boyfriend—but I hold back because I know my toxic ex will laugh at me for being interested in her. My ex is always jealous that I will find someone hotter than her I don’t wanna make her happy.
It’s a constant dilemma. The women who want me are ambitious and successful—an architect, a psychologist—but the one I want has nothing to her name And yet, she’s the only one who truly matters to me but she’s the only one Least interested in me.
What can I do ? I Really want her, I post religious stories on Instagram sometimes to grab her attention. Which is totally against my Ideals I am Agnostic..
22-25, M
