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Did I rush into cutting contact with her?

Two weeks ago, I suggested to my girlfriend that we should cut contact because I noticed she seemed to be losing interest and acting distant. Despite asking her about it several times and her insisting that everything was fine, it didn't feel that way to me at the time. Now, looking back at our conversations, I'm starting to wonder if I was just feeling insecure and made a hasty decision to cut contact. Even though I was often the one initiating conversations, she still responded promptly and entertained me, although not with the same enthusiasm as before. If she missed my calls, she would still return them, but our conversations weren't as long or effortless as they used to be. Now I'm torn between feeling like I rushed into cutting contact and missing her terribly, and wondering if my decision was right. If I were to reach out to her now, how do you think she would react, and what should I say?
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RubySoo · 56-60, F
You say you felt she was loosing interest.....yet you dumped her! You didnt just dump her, you told her you wanted to cut ties. You didnt suggest a break, or time to think...you asked to cut ties.... and its sounds like your wish was granted.
Very well said, @RubySoo.
Arysan · 26-30, M
@RubySoo @VeronicaJane I wanted to talk about it before cutting contact but she wasn't interested in talking about it, plus I heard she met someone.
What was I supposed to do? Wait until she made up her mind between me and the other guy?
RubySoo · 56-60, F
@Arysan no. You did the right thing to dump her. But not for the right reason. You dumped her coz you thought its what she wanted, not coz its what you wanted and now you are doubting yr decision. If you really believe she has someone else, stick to your decision, as you KNOW you will only feel that way again if she said shes willing to try again.
Judging by her reaction @Arysan, it sounds like you may have done more than merely suggest that you should cut contact. You may also have come on too strongly, and perhaps not what she was looking for. @RubySoo is right and you are second guessing yourself. No idea how credible it is "hearing she met someone..." You may well want to consider moving on. Whether there is a lesson here, may well be up to you.