Did I rush into cutting contact with her?

Two weeks ago, I suggested to my girlfriend that we should cut contact because I noticed she seemed to be losing interest and acting distant. Despite asking her about it several times and her insisting that everything was fine, it didn't feel that way to me at the time. Now, looking back at our conversations, I'm starting to wonder if I was just feeling insecure and made a hasty decision to cut contact. Even though I was often the one initiating conversations, she still responded promptly and entertained me, although not with the same enthusiasm as before. If she missed my calls, she would still return them, but our conversations weren't as long or effortless as they used to be. Now I'm torn between feeling like I rushed into cutting contact and missing her terribly, and wondering if my decision was right. If I were to reach out to her now, how do you think she would react, and what should I say?

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Redbeard · 56-60, M

If she really missed you, she would have made the effort to contact you by now. Trust me, she was losing interest. If you do wish to reach out to her, only do it once. If she responds enthusiastically, there is hope. However if she give only a casual response or no response at all, walk away from her forever. Otherwise she will just use you for a fallback or a go to person whenever she wants something. I know how you feel. Been there and done that. I know it's tough to do, but there is no other remedy available. Once people come to realize that you won't tolerate their nonsense, they will respect you for it in the long run even though they claim that they hate you for it.