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Did I rush into cutting contact with her?

Two weeks ago, I suggested to my girlfriend that we should cut contact because I noticed she seemed to be losing interest and acting distant. Despite asking her about it several times and her insisting that everything was fine, it didn't feel that way to me at the time. Now, looking back at our conversations, I'm starting to wonder if I was just feeling insecure and made a hasty decision to cut contact. Even though I was often the one initiating conversations, she still responded promptly and entertained me, although not with the same enthusiasm as before. If she missed my calls, she would still return them, but our conversations weren't as long or effortless as they used to be. Now I'm torn between feeling like I rushed into cutting contact and missing her terribly, and wondering if my decision was right. If I were to reach out to her now, how do you think she would react, and what should I say?
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You suggested two weeks ago and she immediately accepted?
Arysan · 26-30, M
@VeronicaJane Well, she didn't oppose it, and she didn't even try to explain why she's been acting distant. She just kept insisting that everything was okay. But my gut was telling me otherwise because she wasn't as she used to be with me. Even if the reason why she was acting distant has nothing to do with me, I expect her to at least clarify that with me.
@Arysan maybe she thought you were smothering her, and wanted a little space?
Arysan · 26-30, M
@VeronicaJane what do you suggest I do now?
@Arysan has she responded to you, or reached out to you since then?
Arysan · 26-30, M
@Arysan then you pretty much have your answer. You may not know what, but something was off and just didn't work. Perhaps she felt that you emotionally attached too deeply and too quickly. Maybe you're looking for a committed relationship and she'd rather be dating several people. Time to focus elsewhere.