Should I cut contact or have a final conversation?

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Cut contact

Have final conversation

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When someone initially shows a lot of interest in you, but then suddenly starts acting cold and distant, it's evident that something has changed between you. Despite attempts to address the issue, they insist that everything is fine. However, it becomes increasingly difficult to ignore the obvious shift. At this point, you may wonder whether to go no contact or have a final conversation with them to express your concerns. If they refuse to communicate, it may be best to end contact, as pretending that everything is fine becomes unsustainable. If you decide to cut contact, does it equate to a breakup?
Will the other person eventually return? If they don't, and you were the one to suggest cutting contact, is it appropriate to reach out again in the future to gauge their interest? If so, how long should you wait before doing so?

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CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

I understand your frustration. If you take that relationship seriously, demand some closure, if not, then move on or accept the interactions as they are. From my personal experience, I can tell that my attitude shifts when I feel like there's nothing interesting to talk about anymore or the character of conversations suggest that we are closer than we really are without actually knowing each other. I think if the latter is your case then there are only two options: end it or meet each other.

Personally, I don't mind if someone writes after a very long time but that's just me. Some time apart means there's a higher chance they have something interesting to share.

It's normal that someone initially shows interest in you because they don't know you yet. If they already know you and there's nothing new to know, what do you want to talk about? There are only so many "how's your day been"s before it becomes boring and tedious.

Abheem · 26-30, M

@CrazyMusicLover We've been together for over 2 months, and we both really liked each other a lot. We even talked about taking things to the next level. However, somewhere along the line, she seems to have changed her mind. I could tell something was wrong from the way she was acting. I don't want to just cut contact and walk away without giving her the chance to explain herself, even though I've asked her before and she insists there's nothing wrong. If I ask again for the last time and she still refuses to acknowledge the problem, then I'll have to tell her that I can no longer be in that situation because she refuses to communicate. I can walk away knowing I tried my best to address the issue and save what we had.

CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

@Abheem Together as in a regular real life relationship? You're right, if she can't be completely honest with you then you're just wasting your time.