Why are people looking for friends on apps if they already have a big friend circle? Genuinely want to know.

So I just met this girl off a friendship app. She had this sob story about not having friends that’s there for her, and how happy she is to meet me because I don’t judge her, and I’m just happy for us to go out and have fun. No pressure or expectations just two girls going out and doing things together. Except the last two times we hung out, she keeps FaceTiming this girl who she talked to me about. She is one of the friends she claims is not there for her, and made her do a lot of stuff, also she said some lowkey racist stuff about not liking yt women but the girl she FaceTime is a yt woman. So I’m sitting there third wheeling to a FaceTime convo. Then she put me on the camera and I don’t want to be on the camera she introduced me and the girl says something slick, like I sound like Siri. I’m thinking you yt and sound like Queen Latifa but you mad I sound like Siri just because I talk proper. Also the girl I met is another proper sounding blk girl so I don’t get why my voice is such a big deal to her, That’s another story it pisses me off when people expect me to sound like ghetto hood ray just because I’m a blk girl. So I get up and tell everyone I gotta go and thanks for the invite. When I got home I was tempted to block her cause she seem lowkey fake af, and why is she friends with people she claim not there for her and that’s her sob story. Also another thing, I realise I’m paying for everything, which originally I thought okay if I pay for out tickets this one time she will pay for her food or our food next, or if I get this thing for her she will get me next. It would be like we’re at the drive through and the cashier is looking at me I’m looking at her she looking at me😂 So I’m like I’m hungry I’ll pay. This is why I like just being to myself having girlfriends is exspensive because alot of these girls are not in good financial situations, they just want live off the next friend. I was actually really looking for friends because I’m new here, and don’t know anyone here at all.

Sepia · 36-40, F

True friends aren’t freeloaders…

For the sake of some sort of sisterhood league…I had this friend cordially like a sister whom we treated well.. but she is a sour-grapper, wounded dog loser who cannot accept others success and if we have chance to talk she has nothing to share than being bitter about those who were able to made a better life, her crazy losses , and to those who didn’t make their promises to her like she felt too much entitlement that everyone must help her, and if help was offered she will act like it is gonna be hard for you to make it a way for her to received it…. She isn’t even grateful to accept generosity, very spiteful if she does, it will be like there is a stint of jealousy if you reach out for what she is asking.

Everyone in the group isn’t getting young anymore, we all have priorities and she can’t seem to understand, very demanding. Some of our friends gave up already. She already end it up fighting with four different friends whoever she is in a contract with. All we thought was that she isn’t always going to just copy projects, homework’s, free print outs, just joining group discussions and thesis without original contribution, always likely to sing in chorus.. and has never change even we finished college..and yes I have to say “she finished with us”..

Everyone in the group decided to not give in for her now.. no matter how she tries to keep it clean and discreet. She seems needy but will act like waiting and you are obliged to help her. It’ll always going to stink.