Does anyone know safe cities/states for women of color? I want to leave these small southern cities.

I was raised in Pinedale Wyoming. I was the only black girl in the whole school in the 2000s. Then my mother moved me to NC which is in the south. Living in these small racist cities is really affecting me mentally. I can’t make friends, everyone acts nasty towards me. White people keep trying to drive my car off the road. They see me as threat. I don’t have a big family as I don’t know my dads side and my mothers side died off when I was a teenager. My mother is retired with her disabled husband so she stays in this racist town but they never really have to leave their place except for food. I just feel like there’s no where safe for black women. Our men at times are a danger to us, and then a lot of yt people are evil to us. I have a bad feeling something is going to happen to me. I also feel like I’m being targeted because everytime I’m driving people flash my car, and I was told to flash them back. Then I decided I’m not going to do that because I already stick out. The other day when I leaving crumble cookie these two young white women blocked me in when I was trying to leave. I honestly just get the vibe they don’t like seeing black women that are pretty or have nicer cars than them. Something about them seeing a black woman drive a Jeep really pisses them off. I didn’t know it was that bad down here cause I just left VA as I was leaving a abusive marriage. This is really draining and I don’t know who to go too. I have to make a living and take care of myself. I can’t let these people intimidate me. I grew up to love everyone and please don’t think I’m making this up this is my life and it happens everyday. I’m shocked this is happening to me in 2023 but this is what happens in the real work in the South. Esp when your out numbered.

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ElwoodBlues · M

So I tried a 2nd prompt, because cutting & pasting is easy.

The prompt: make a quick list of the safest US cities for black women outside the South

Safe US Cities for Black Women Outside the South:

1. Raleigh-Durham, North Carolina:
Relatively low crime rate.
Strong focus on diversity and inclusion.
Thriving economy with diverse career opportunities.
Robust healthcare system.
Vibrant Black community with established support networks.

2. Minneapolis-St. Paul, Minnesota:
Low violent crime rate.
Strong economy with diverse career opportunities.
Excellent healthcare system with numerous hospitals and clinics.
Active Black community organizations and initiatives.

3. Seattle-Tacoma, Washington:
High focus on innovation and healthcare access.
Diverse and welcoming community.
Strong economy with opportunities in tech and other industries.
Access to specialized healthcare services for Black women.

4. Denver-Aurora-Lakewood, Colorado:
Growing Black community with strong support networks.
Thriving economy with diverse career options.
Relatively affordable cost of living.
Access to outdoor activities and recreational opportunities.

5. Portland-Vancouver-Hillsboro, Oregon-Washington:
High quality of life with a focus on sustainability and environmental awareness.
Strong social support networks and community resources.
Diverse economy with opportunities in various industries.
Access to nature and outdoor activities.

6. Boston-Cambridge-Newton, Massachusetts:
World-class medical institutions and excellent healthcare access.
Strong economy with diverse career opportunities.
Vibrant cultural scene and educational institutions.
Welcoming and inclusive community environment.

7. San Francisco-Oakland-Berkeley, California:
Strong focus on diversity and inclusion initiatives.
Robust social support networks and community resources.
Thriving economy with opportunities in tech and other industries.
Vibrant cultural scene with diverse communities.

8. Washington D.C.-Arlington-Alexandria, Virginia-Maryland-West Virginia:
High concentration of government jobs and educational institutions.
Strong Black community with established support networks.
Numerous cultural attractions and historical landmarks.
Excellent access to healthcare and resources.

9. Chicago-Naperville-Elgin, Illinois:
Large and diverse Black community with strong support networks.
Robust economy with diverse career opportunities.
Vibrant cultural scene and numerous entertainment options.
Relatively affordable cost of living compared to other major cities.

10. Atlanta-Sandy Springs-Alpharetta, Georgia:
Major Black cultural hub with a strong sense of community.
Diverse economy with opportunities in various industries.
Thriving music and entertainment scene.
Access to resources specifically tailored to support Black women.

Please note: This list is not exhaustive and should be considered a starting point for your research. Individual needs and priorities should be considered when choosing a city.

Lexiitexii · 31-35, F

@ElwoodBlues Thank you tonight I got told to gtfo the road then called me a monkey. I don’t feel safe here and it makes me sad because I have to leave the place I was raised and where my grandfather lived all his life and I’m sure he thought it would get better in 2023 he died in 2009 but it’s really not. Yes people may be sleeping with ppl of different races but no one is making any changes. Wow we can marry and sleep together but no one is helping end racism down here. I’m on the road from 8am till 1am the next day some nights and I see a lot. It’s worse it’s like history repeating it’ self.