What are the challenges when dating more than one man?

And I mean [i]officially[/i] dating, not that cheating crap. I'm mostly interested in the answers of women who have been there. Do you call yourself polyamorous or polyandric? Was it a conscious decision to be with more than one guy?

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Faust76 · 46-50, M

So, reading the other responses, so not so much dating as being in a committed relationship with multiple people? Yeah, that goes as polyamory usually. Tried it, didn't end well. I don't think human society is built to handle it, and haven't really heard of it working for anyone. But, to each their own... there's lots of guides on the Internet too which might be better than asking random people's opinion, though as said those guides don't actually work ;) Also, have you thought how you'd feel about allowing the same to the guys as well?

LunaInvicta

I know people for whom polyamory works, so... I'm not really interested in having a relationship. ANd it's not about "allowing" the same to the guys. They're free people and can do whatever they want. It's a "go with the flow"-thing for me. When I fall for someone or if I'm interested sexually I don't want to restrain myself, as it feels unnatural.

Faust76 · 46-50, M

Ah, so not so much non-exclusive dating or polyamory then, but more of an open relationship?

LunaInvicta

@Faust76: Not a committed relationship in the usual sense. Let's maybe call it affairs. I basically mean engaging in acts that occurr naturally - no matter if I'm in love with someone else. And being able to be open about it.

EnigmaticGeek · 61-69, M

@LunaInvicta: I like how you think. :-)

raja64 · 36-40, M

@LunaInvicta: i like your thinking and i think the same.